my 2 year old wont use the bathroom in the toliet?

Question

HE STARTS CRYING REALLY BAD EVERYTIME I PUT HIM ON THE TOLIET LIKE HES SCARED OF IT OR SOMETHING ........ PLEASE GIVE ME SOME POINTERS

Answer 1

Are you trying to put him on the regular 'adult-sized' seat? If so, you should seriously consider getting the toddler-sized adapters [some potty-chairs either include one or convert into one].

This is a HUGE fear for most children - seen from their perspective, here is this cold white thing that is almost as tall as they are and seems twice as big, seen from the front looking towards wall, and it just suddenly makes a loud noise and anything inside falls down a hole and is gone forever. Not being a child development expert, I can't tell you when they become cognizant of the 'cause and effect' of it all - push the handle, then the loud noise and "bye-bye" happen - every child is different in that.

Best advice, besides get the adapter:
1) don't push, don't scold and don't belittle -- even parents have fears that another adult would consider irrational. No matter how annoyed, irritated or busy you are 'now' you can bet that pressure, scolding and belittling [any thing from I guess you're not a big boy to animal references] is only going to make things worse by making the child anxious and upset. And technically, things like those notes in the [ ] qualify as child abuse in most states...
2) try sitting or kneeling within HIS arm's reach while he is on potty - a little comfort and moral support now will have long reaching impact when your little boy becomes a big man...trust me! (And if you give him a hug, rub his back now, he is more likely to reward you with trust in the future when he faces real challenges.
3) consider allowing him to use his stand-alone potty chair for as long as he needs in order to get comfortable -- I promise you, by the time he heads off to school or preschool, he will be using the adult version and quite likely will insist that you stay outside of the closed door.

Answer 2

Wait.

Two years old is young for pottytraining, particularly boys.

Forcing potty-training before they're ready is not effective because you don't have their cooperation. Most of the time, if you use this method, he'll actually get fully pottytrained around the same time as he would if you waited until he was actually ready, only you get to suffer a lot more with the crying and struggling.

It's best, and most effective, to wait until the child is ready and is interested in potty-training. Yours is clearly not, and you could be setting yourself up for disaster if you continue to force him to sit on the toilet when he hates it, because one of the first things you need to do in pottytraining is to make the toilet a GOOD thing.

Give it a couple weeks or months, then try again. The average age for boys to be pottytrained is actually 3-5 years old.

In the meantime, find out WHY he seems afraid, if he can articulate it. A lot of kids are afraid of the flush, or are afraid they'll fall in, or even that when they go to the bathroom, they are losing a part of themselves and flushing it away. It could be he's not comfortable on the seat, so get him a little potty or a potty pad to get it the right size for him and help him feel more secure.

Play up how cool it is to be a big kid and use the potty, instead of baby diapers.

Get him a book and/or video about potty-training. Among other shows, I know Bear in the Big Blue House has a really good potty-training video, as does Elmo. There are also books, I think that are Elmo, that have where you can push a button and it sounds like a flush.

But just be patient with him, keep the potty accessible, and try again later.

Answer 3

Step back and stop doing it for a week or so. He's associating it with something bad now...he's probably forgotten why he's was so upset about it to begin with! Buy a potty book and read that for the next few weeks too. Do you have a toddler potty seat? It goes over the regular toilet seat and it fits their little bottoms so they don't fall through. When you're ready to start again, tell him to take his potty book and go sit on the big boy potty with it. Start slowly and make it fun and a game. If he's still puttin up a fight, then he's simply not ready. Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm not understanding how your big sister fits into this picture. Children are a lot tougher and adaptable than they are given credit for. It's we adults who have the most problems. Here is what I would do if I were in your shoes. You need to prepare these children for moving onward and upward. You can do this by being their best friend and developing a closeness with them as much as possible. You also have to be strong and take on the role of a parent. They are going to need your love just as if they were born of you. This is not the time to tell them. You first have to develop your relationship with them if you are going to raise them. When they are given the news, they need to know that they have a family and that they will always be together. You are their new family. You are now mom and dad. Give it a good six weeks for them to view you as their keeper and nurturer. Do the best you can at making them see this. I would then have a talk with the two oldest ones about what happens at the end of life and how no one knows when it is coming for them. This is a good time to introduce them to the idea of God if they are not already up on it. I would tell them how sometimes it is neccessary that God takes some of us sooner and some later. Why he does that, we don't know. Perhaps their parents were called to help prepare a place for their children when their time comes. I would take the two oldest to the graves of their parents and explain that this is where their parents bodies were buried but that their souls are in heaven where everything is beautiful. Good Luck. I don't have anything better to offer. .

Answer 5

You can't force a toddler to use the toilet if he's not ready. 2 is young, especially if he just turned 2. Some kids don't potty train until they are 3. If he is afraid of the toilet (toddlers can be afraid of things that we could never understand), forcing him will only make it worse. It sounds gross, but I let my 2 year old (who still wears diapers all the time) watch me and my husband use the toilet when he wants to, so he can see how it's done. He's also seeing the toilet is nothing to be afraid of. He'll let you know when he's ready! Good luck =)

Answer 6

What worked for my kids is The Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com This stool makes any toilet kid- sized. My kids did immediately climbed right on the toilet and were interested in using the toilet like mommy and daddy. It really helped my son to pee standing up so that he could see what was happening and connect the sensations. I like that this stool cuts potty training in half by eliminating the potty chair. This stool really made the difference for my kids. It definitely takes a child's fear of the toilet away. I hope this helps you.

Answer 7

maybe he's scared of the noise, try letting him go in with you and after you use the pot, then let him flush the toilet, thats how i got my daughter used to the noise. Then I told her that if she used the potty then she could flush the potty then also.......worked rather well.......she still is a little timid when going into a restaurant's bathroom b/c they are too noisy

Answer 8

he's not ready. you can stop for a while then start again in a month or so. then just keep encouraging him, make him a chart and he can put a sticker on it when he sits or goes on the potty. it might take a while but just be patient. i started potty training my daughter at 2 and it took almost a year to have her trained.

Answer 9

The only thing you can is wait. My son will not go near the toilet unless he's trying to put toys in it! He'll be 3 in october.

Answer 10

actually. most 2 years are not potty trained. just wait a while and try again. i think we rush kids to much these days, just relax and give him time