Do you think people are right in saying that it is a waste of time being in a relstionship if you ar a teen?

Answer 1

People only mean that most teenaged relationships do not last and because teenagers are 'over emotional' they get more worked up about trivial things in a relationship. They are more negative than positive because teens over react to everything which causes a lot of anxiety and misunderstandings.
The experience of getting serious is necessary for growth but teens have a tendancey of not prioritizing the right things. Teens take everything too seriously as if it would be the end of the world if everything doesn't work out the way they hope for it to.
So when adults use this expression it's only to say that by adulthood those relationships don't matter at all but when we were teens we made them more important than what Was really important.
Me, for instance, my most abusive relationships were while I was a teen. I've had bad relationships as an adult but those relationships I had as a teen were needed so I wouldn't make those mistakes again.

Answer 2

At first I was thinking, who would say such a thing..., but then I remember how active some teens can get, balancing sports, studying, and just regular family life, so I can kind of see why some might say that.

Plus I'd say it depends on how old a person is. Early teens, even though I wouldn't consider it a total waste, I agree with someone who said it wouldn't be good if that person was the center of their whole universe, because it's not healthy for emotions to run that high this early in their life. Late teens, almost 20, well, that's a bit different. These people are getting ready to find that special someone, if they haven't already, and are reaching out to find them, and gaining experience in dating and relationships.

Answer 3

Its absolutely not a waste of time! Of course, depending where each person is in their teens, there are certain levels of emotional development that will only come with age, and with time, and with experience.

Very early teens (here I'm talking about 13 - 15) do need support from peers and parents, more than they need to be alone making out (or whatever) together some-place. I'm sorry if this offends you, but it is at this age that statistics begin to CLIMB into the stratosphere for Teen Pregnancies.

In an ideal world, a teen relationship would be clean and pure; it would allow both partners to practice their socializing skills, without the sort of pressure that leads to anorexia, depression, abuse and so on.

The point is, with people around who love and care for you, and who make sure that your relationship is both healthy and appropriate, you have an IDEAL format in which to 'practice' the skills that will make you a good husband/wife many years down the track!!

Answer 4

No, Practice Makes Perfect.
Im A Teenager, And If You Say My Relationships Are A Waste Of Time I'll Give You A Thump Alongside The Earhole.

Answer 5

My husband and I starting dating in high school after being friends for a long time, and then went to college 600 miles apart. We didn't want to break up because really we were in love and planned to marry after college. We have a great marriage of 27 years and I would never trade any of it.

But looking back on it, I think it would have been better if we had just stayed friends till after college and then gotten together. It was lonely, and the phone bills (pre-internet) were sky high because we missed each other so much.

So I guess I would say not to get too involved with any one person when you're a teen. You still have lots of time and experiences ahead of you. Have fun!

Answer 6

It's not a waste of time, it's a learning curve. It's only an issue if you think that any teenage relationship is the only one. If you've settled into one and only one relationship you aren't learning anything. You are merely dealing with angst. Real relationships happen when you have some life experience to realize who you are, what you want and how to deal with it. We've all been there. It doesn't change.

Answer 7

Of course not, these are still your formative years. It is part of lifes natural progression starting to learn about different emotions, social situations and mature relationships.
It is rarer to met your life partner when your in your teens because, the experiences you have now are still shaping your personality and helping you to form opinions and attitudes that you will carry into adult life.
But no, you are not wasting your time at all.

Answer 8

Absolutely not. Being in relationships, in addition to making your teen years worth while, teaches you how to be in one when you are an adult and get married.

Of course, I'm 14 and have never been in a relationship. But I'm going into High School, so it can't be too far off.

Answer 9

Don't listen to other people. Teenage relationships dont last for too long going by the ones my 15yo son has. It's all experience. It's all part of life and growing up. You just have to be ready for the broken heart that happens.

Answer 10

I think "relationships", as they are conceived of nowadays, are a waste of time whatever your age. I think men and women should just hang out together and let their feelings evolve, but not talk about them until it's impossible to hold back. That way, you don't give up your freedom until both of you are sure. That's how they did it in Jane Austen novels, and it seemed to work pretty well.