I have been married for a year next week (YEAH!) but I sometimes still wonder about this... What does everyone think of guests who RSVP that they will attend the wedding, but then they don't show up? There were a number of no shows at our wedding, and when I think about the money that went down the drain for those people, it still bothers me. We heard some interesting reasons/excuses, too. Thoughts, opinions?
2007-09-01 11:12:24 · 20 answers · asked by theMrs. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hi. Well, it's down right rude, unless there is a really good reason (i.e., sickness, emergency). I was lucky when I planned by daughter's.....the venue TOLD us to plan on 5% less....so when I turned in my rsvp's, THEY cut it by 5%. I was a little nervous, but this is there business so I went with it. Well, wouldn't you know the next day I counted up and there were exactly the number of people as no shows as we had undercut so it worked out perfectly!
But to get back to your question, this is rude. Some people do not realize that you have already paid for them. Since I live in a small town, ours wasn't as much....now if you were in NY or LA...I can't even imagine. Definitely inconsiderate.
2007-09-02 12:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is annoying, but nothing can be done about it, it seems. Especially grating, knowing some people RSVP as a Yes, then they have somewhere to go that day, figuring they can blow it off if a better offer comes up. ARGH!
It can be just as well, because sometimes people want to bring an extra person you didn't count on, and the no-shows balance that out.
2007-09-01 21:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The entire RSVP system is broken. So many questions on this site ask about all the persons who have yet to RSVP and they need the count for the caterer. Its nuts. You will always have that cloud of doubt over those people and their excuses; so they may have forfeited your friendship. This problem is only one symbol of the lack of civil society today. I suppose it isnt the worst since no one is lying dead in the street but it is a symptom of too many problems in the US
2007-09-01 19:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It irks me too! We had about 15 people RSVP and not show! That was so much money! I didn't even get excuses from any of them... they just didn't show. I had a few people who RSVP'd that they would bring a date and then they didn't. I think they probably wanted to come with someone but couldn't find a date. That was pretty annoying.... we were gracious enough to let single cousins bring dates and then we paid for people who never showed! Most of the people who weren't there didn't even send us a card. That is just bad manners!
2007-09-01 20:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. R. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yea i had that happen at my wedding.
But they let us know what was happen..
One of them was going on vacation around the time i had my wedding. She alright book it. But her kids went to my wedding.
And another person mom fall and she had to go hospital or she was sick or something.
They did RSVP. but things change at last min. So i guess it ok. As long as they explain to us what going on. At less i think i had nice wedding.
Some people may forget to go wedding while they are doing some other stuff or there was family thing going on. I had half table of people didn't show. because of family problems. But my brother friends fill the other half the table.
I maybe would like to redo my receptions of my wedding it was not best. because i had a lot of problem with things and my best friend grandfather was sick and she was worry and she didn't have much time to see her grandfather. And she was at my wedding as MAin of honor. so i worry with her and other things went on at my wedding
2007-09-01 19:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really remember who didn't show, except one coupple who ended up having a baby the night before our wedding.
I'm sure I had other no shows but it must not have bothered me. There were a few people who declined in their RSVP for various reasons, and some of those I remember, but most were legitimate. Other weddings, one was a baby shower out of state etc.
Don't let it bother you, you know the important people showed up!
2007-09-01 18:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by Reba 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This happens ALL the time. Also the reverse, where people dont rsvp or say no and then show up. People are rude.
2007-09-01 18:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by fnd40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe something came up that was out of their control. you no people ask you to rsvp months in advance so at that time they said yes but something can happen with in the next month or so. so don't be mad at them for not showing up. besides you had a wedding to impress the people there, it suppose to be all about the bride and groom .
2007-09-01 18:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by sexyb 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe it is absolutely true; some children are raised by animals and not humans. Therefore, they are never taught good manners, the "decent" thing to do, or how to live in a society with people and act as if you belong there, and not out in the barnyard.
Of course, they are ill mannered louts. There is no other reason,s hort of being in a coma from a car crash on the way to the wedding, to not let you know they can't be there, in time to not order the food, etc.
they aren't worth a second thought.
2007-09-01 18:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yep, they are rude. Flakey and all that. But you have to let it go now. Some of them maybe had good excuses but the majority probably changed their minds. At least you know their true character and I wouldnt be inviting them to many other events. Good luck with your future and happy anniversary.
2007-09-03 20:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋