I'm 16 years old.. and i have a boyfriend who is beautiful inside and out. We are both Christians, and we both know the "no sex before marriage rule", follow it. We respect each other and opinions. We both have many friends but we are a team together and we work together. I do know that you never know what's going to happen in a relationship, whether me and him will break up, or whether we won't. I don't believe in the whole teenage love isn't true thing, because i do understand in order to have a successful relationship you have to work at it; You need to sacrifice, forgive, and love with all your heart. We are both willing to do this. Seems like nothing except God can tear us apart. But i had prayed to God if he isn't the right person, don't let us continue, but if he is, let him stay and i will love him with all of my heart. It is almost a year now. The thing is.. we are both of different race. People do not take us seriously, and MY (not his) parents will shun me if we were to get
2007-09-01 10:24:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
married.
I do understand the whole "relationship can end anytime" thing. And i will except it. But it hurts to know that the one thing i want to do.. marry him.. is the one thing i can't. Because of stupid racial difference. He is a great person, with great dreams. He is everything my mom told me to find in a guy, but a different race.
How do i deal with this?
2007-09-01 10:24:41 · update #1
You don't have to deal with anything yet.
You are way way way too young to be thinking about marriage. Get an education, finish school, start a career first.
Trust me. You will never regret it.
2007-09-01 10:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is such a stupid business. I'm not saying your problem is stupid at all; don't take that the wrong way. What I mean is that it's stupid that the world even has a problem with interracial dating. Who are your parents to tell you that you can't date a great guy because his skin is a different color? I'm white, and I would date any race if they were a good person.
I don't believe in God the way you do (I'm Wiccan and we think differently), but considering you're Christian, pray all you can. Your form of God will see you through.
2007-09-01 17:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by Alana 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In spite of the fact that I was raised in an area of segregated schools when I was growing up, I managed to overcome bigotry by realizing that we are all equal in God's sight. Don't let anyone cause you to reject the possibility of a happy marriage with someone of a different race. Love and happiness are what's important. And, as long as you have the greatest love, the love of Jesus in your hearts, everything will turn out fine.
Just give your love the test of time. If it is real, it will still be there when you are old enough.
Sorry, I just noticed that you are 16- way too young to think of marriage anytime soon, but the thoughts I stated above still hold true.
2007-09-01 17:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Faye 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a such thing as inter cultural dating. The concept of race is an invention of people who wanted to have a way to treat other humans as less than they treated themselves, and has no basis in science or reality. Your parents are wrong about "race". That being said, you are still 16.... Only the little racist girl in here seems to think that is an acceptable age to marry, and I would not be surprised if it was because she got knocked up at 15. Wait on the marriage, ignore your parents' racist ways.
2007-09-01 18:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by XX 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If your parents love you, they will want what every parent wants for their children. Happiness. If they are christian, they will understand that they should not be partial. They shouldn't make any difference between their race and anyone else's. The apostle Paul wrote: "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor freman, there is neither male or female, for you are all one person in union with Christ Jesus" (Gal. 3:28) also Acts 10:34,35 says: "God is not partial, but in every nation the man that fears him and works righteousness is acceptable to him" I hope you realize that the way your parents think is wrong and not Christian-like AT ALL and I hope that the scriptures I have shared with you help you reason with them. I wish you the best!!!
2007-09-01 17:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by yvettexas007 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So what if you two are different races. People need to realize that just because your from different races doesn't mean anything. Love is love, love doesn't know what race is, nor does it understand what skin color means, all love knows is how it feels. I have tons of friends that married someone who was from a different race.
If your parents can't accept him, then it is their lose, if you love him and are happy with him then that should be enough.
2007-09-01 17:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by newwellness 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are different cultures in humans but not different races. It is impossible to define any races so you cannot be having interracial dating. If you mean his skin is a different colour from yours, so what? His hair is probably a different colour too as are his eyes. He is probably a different height as well. All these things are genetically determined but skin colour does not define race any more than height or hair colour does. Ignore the bigots and love whoever you like.
2007-09-01 17:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by tentofield 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HELLO HELLO HELLO,,,,,, there is "nothing in the 'bible" nothing!!!! you will not be able to find it, that is against anyone man or woman, and what "we" call, interracial marriage" there is no such thing!!! God condones and sanctifies the unity of all without discrimination!!! because, there will be no "race" in heaven. Just sons. So, you don't worry about a thing, "people " are the ones responsible for the "split" and such things, Not God...Love is Love...People are People God bless us all!! Everyone!!!( tiny tim) ...lol.....lol..
2007-09-01 17:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. "Diamond" 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Part of growing up is asserting values that differ from your parents. I really don't believe you will be with this young man forever. The odds are against it. But if you feel strongly enough the relationship will run its course. God bless!
2007-09-01 17:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
what race is he?..........
anyways, but i think if you both believe in God love each other respect each other, your parents should repect that....i really dont know what i would do in that situation, just keep praying to God to show you the right path.
2007-09-01 17:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Lady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋