i feel so worthless at times when i see him do this and of all things hes not the type hopefully not to cheat but when i see him look i feel like the ugliest woman on earth ......... whats wrong with me could it be something in my past that makes me feel this way about myself ???????
2007-09-01 10:11:44 · 15 answers · asked by LOULOU 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm sure your just putting to much thought into his looking...For all you know, he's thinking, " wow, she really dresses like a whore, that is hideous!" You never know!
He wouldnt be with you if he didn't want you....
and even if you were the ugliest chick on the work, (which I totally doubt, i'm sure your one hot *****)...He must love you an awful lot if he still married you!!!!
And hurting yourself wont help at all..... it will make you stop thinking about it for a while, but then after that, your going to be thinking about it more because you have to think of why you did that everyday, and it will be hard to forget!!!!
And plus, you'll have to explain yourself to your husband, which would be harder on you....so the next time you catch him looking at other woman, think of all the reasons your better then her, and why he's with you and not her....I'm sure there are millions of reasons!!!
-STAY SAFE-
2007-09-01 10:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's all a self esteem thing. Way back when my hubby and I first got together, he was such a girl-checker- outer that it would really piss me off! I would just steam up inside. He would see a cute gal and I swear he turned into a brain-cell challenged 5 year old! But once at a store, there was this big tittied braless chick shopping. My husband honed in on that like a shark to blood. I don't think he even noticed she had a head, just two mounds of mammaries! You'd think he saw a celebrity or something. It was profoundly disturbing. Sooooo, the very next store we went in to , I saw a guy with a really nice booty.(Still don't recall if that booty had a head! ha!) I just looked the guy up and down, while hubby was beside me and said rather loudly,"Nice ***!". The guy smiled and continued shopping. My husband felt two feet tall. ....He still looks, I'm sure, but ever so discreetly!
2007-09-01 17:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by zen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would be harming the wrong person, sweetie.
He comes home to you every night, doesn't he?
You are already harming yourself by being jealous, and harming your marriage. Jealousy is a good way to make the other girls even more interesting.
You are probably running some old tapes from your past; sometime when you were made to feel insignificant.
I hate to use this line over and over, but you could profit from seeing a counselor.
2007-09-01 17:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't mean to make you feel degraded. Its a natural reaction a man has. If he stops doing it, I'd worry something's wrong with him. I used to feel like that too but it only upset me and I didn't like how I was feeling all the time so I just thought, if all he's doing is looking, he shouldn't mind if I look too. Do you think you know how he honestly feels about you? Then stop worrying. I'm sure guys look at you too and he has nothing to worry about either does he? And btw, you're acting very normal. But let it go or you'll drive yourself crazy.
2007-09-01 17:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by kiddo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your self esteem needs work. why cant he look. Think of it this way: His looking means he still has an eye for beauty. He can still enjoy the opposite sex and bring that pleasure home where it belongs. Do you enjoy the well formed shape of a male? Do you not look? When you do look are you making plans to sleep with the observed or do you simple enjoy the eye candy?
Change how you react, instead of becoming upset, walk closer to him and give him a gentle squeeze and say, she is something to look at isn't she. Notice his response to your new found confidence. You may be amazed.
2007-09-01 17:23:27 · answer #5 · answered by itchianna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is not right when he's looking, try to look at other men too, he'll make a scene for sure, but if you do... he'll pretend to be surprised(Me? Looking? I just...). Men think it's ok to let themselves look or coment other girls for them. What you need to understand that appearance is not all. Sex is not the main thing in the world. But it's so hard to value yourself when there are a lot of young beatiful and slim models everywhere... I understand it's difficult, I'm often jealous myself.... I know a woman who's husband is looking at girls all the time... she just laughs at him. These girls will never look at him. He's too old for them. Your past is your past, life goes on.
2007-09-01 17:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by ania361 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, that is very demeaning. If you told him how you felt, I bet he would deny it, same thing happened to me. I think I would start looking at other guys when he's around to give him a taste of his own medicine.
2007-09-01 17:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Amy K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were probabley not given any postive re-enforcement as a child. You should work with a therapest to work through those feelings.
2007-09-01 17:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well there's the childhood thing or ur just too self concious. but take this to heart: if he didnt love u, he wouldnt be married with u.
2007-09-01 17:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by em0grl4evah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything to urself, im sure u are a beutiful lady, its in a guys nature to look at other women, there is nothing we can do about it, just as i am sure u look at other guys sometimes. just dont worry about it
2007-09-01 17:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by WYATT H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋