The plain truth is they really don't like me much, and I am not crazy about them either---yea we love each other---but on my end its the problem of I poured my lifes blood into raising them and they don't see the revevancy of being respectful or even happy to see me. I'm middle of the road person, no drinking drugs etc. their father and I gave it our best shot and they are all other religions, and quite remote. I guess if I had it to do over again I'd pass, except for one grand kid, whos a charmer.
2007-09-01 09:21:20 · 3 answers · asked by kim 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Once they hit 18 then they are on their own. Can't you be happy they were raised without the police knocking on your door, no drugs, no unwanted pregnancy? You raised them in faith and they made their own choices. Your not responsible for them anymore.. hurray!!!
Why don't you both give yourselves a pat on the back for being successful in parenthood and move on with your life.
Once they are out of the house your supposed to make time for each other and if the kids show up its fine but its not a major requirement to be considered family anymore.
When I was a kid we had to check in with the grand parents weekly, it was totally boring, the adults talked and I just sat there reading comics in old newspapers. I traveled a lot, while I had kids, and if my folks wanted to see us that was fine. I never forced myself on them they had their own life to lead.
Just pray for the kids and enjoy your freedom!!
2007-09-01 09:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation happens quite often in families. First, you said that their father and you so i assume that you are not their biological mother. Maybe their mother has brainwashed them and they act this way with you. You have done your best. Maybe when they will get older, they will be more thankful. Anyway, the duty to raise them is their father and mother. I wouldn't waste my time and effort with kids that have no respect for me. Maybe talk to their father about this situation and let him handle this or both of you go talk with the kids.
2007-09-01 17:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you birth 20 kids???????
2007-09-01 16:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋