For about 5 years now, I've been planning on going into the medical field. I'm definitely smart enough to do so, and despite my young age, I've had several local colleges offer me scholarships for a 6 year med-school program, but the more I learn about such a career, the less I'm interested.( Plus, I don't think I'd have the mental stability to deal with the responsibility of deciding, potentially, whether someone will live or die.)
To put it bluntly, I want to be an accountant, not a doctor.
How do I break this to my mother? With her, I am incapable of just telling her point blank, but she keeps going on and on to her friends about how proud she is that her little girl will probably be a doctor.
2007-09-01 07:51:54 · 8 answers · asked by Bri 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've been accepted into 3 medical schools that will take me in after I complete regular college and 4 college-med-school combos that take 6 years total.
I'm a junior in high school, so I'm only 16.
2007-09-01 08:06:56 · update #1
Thats tough. But I still think straight forward is the best way. Put emphasis on how you feel about it, and make sure you get through that you are talking about the rest of your life. I hope shes not trying to use you as a trophy.
On a side note, can I have your spot? I'm trying to go to med school.
2007-09-01 08:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by hockeyfreak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have never heard of a 6-year med school program. Only a 4-4-2. But you should do whatever you want to do and your mom will still love you. She may be disappointed a little because you may have made so many plans. But in the end, it is your life, and you will have to live it.
Just sit down with her one day and tell her, "Mom, I have changed my mind about what I want for my future." Tell her your new plan, what schools you are thinking about, where you might like to work, your hopes for the future. Unfortunately the best way to do is is straight out. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.
2007-09-01 15:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by alikat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I told my parents that I wasn't going to college (to be a RN), but that I was joining the Army. They yelled and stomped around for a couple days and demanded that I go to college to be a nurse or teacher (I guess by giving me an option of 2 careers that that would make a difference). As hard as it was to tell them face to face, just imagine how hard it would have been if I had hid it from them and just disappeared one day.
You've made up your mind to have a career in accounting, instead of medicine. That is your choice, not your mother's. Try to show her some information about accounting. Maybe set up an appointment for you and your mother with a local accountant. Set down and have them explain what they do and the benefits that come with the job (ie. the money you make). Explain to her why you've chosen this path and how important her support is to you.
All in all...this is you life not your mother's. It is hard to tell our parents, "I don't what to do what you've picked for me to do w/ my life," but we have to.
She may yell and get made at you, but she will still love you.
2007-09-01 15:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Strong w/ Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her what you have said here. It will be much worse if you follow a dream that you are not interested in just to please her. She really will understand if she loves you and is mature enough to realize she is trying to live through your accomplishments. My daughter was in the same position as you and after a semester in college finally confessed to me that she really wanted to major in art. I realized then that the whole medical school idea was mine because it was something I wanted to do and was not able to do at the time. She graduated with her art degree and later became an attorney. I couldn't be prouder.
2007-09-01 15:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember this is your future and your LIFE. you are allowed to change career paths especially when you are so young. just tell your mom that you have decided that you are not cut out to be a doctor, it's something that you don't want to be and that you'll be going to college to become an accountant. she can be just as proud of her little girl being an accountant as a being a doctor - besides, she is supposed to be proud of YOU not what you become. in this day and age, i wouldn't want to be a doctor either, so i think your decision is a good one. good luck in your future.
2007-09-01 15:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your mom and tell her theres other things out there that your also intrested in doing, you got to be the one to live your life no one else should, and your going to be the one doing the job, just make sure its the one you want before you do it.
2007-09-01 15:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by nichole l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your life and your decision.
That said, the fact that you worry about the
level of responsibility involved, and doubt
your ability to meet it means that you'd make
a good doctor.
(You're evaluating yourself honestly at 18?,
- of course you're not ready!
Six years is gonna change you a lot.)
2007-09-01 15:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say that you dont want to do it and its not her choice what u want to be because your an adult and its your choice
2007-09-01 15:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋