My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years. I have to say that I am very lucky and we have an amazing and healthy relationship, I could not ask for more.
He goes to school (college) about 3 hours away so I only get to see him for maybe 2 or 3 weekends out of the month. I go to a college near our hometown.
The problem?? I am always worring that I am going to lose him or that something will happen to us. I know that I am very lucky to have him in my life and am afraid of what could happen, and worry that he will party and cheat on me. He has never done anything that would make me distrust him. He reassures me all the time that we will be okay and he loves me and we will always be together, and I believe him, but I still worry.
So what is my deal? Is this normal, or am I just being a big baby? What are some tips to help me stay positive and believe in us, and get this stuff out of my head? Help please!
2007-09-01 07:37:31 · 7 answers · asked by 570Chicky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that he wouldn't cheat on me, that's just not the kind of person that he is, so it's not that. His family raised him better than that, and he is better than that. So that is not something I can see him doing. Constructive answers please. Thanks =)
2007-09-01 07:49:47 · update #1
We talk every day on the phone for a long time, and we both do very nice gestures to show each other that we care all the time(he makes/carves sweet things for me, and I love pictures so I make nice little things for him too.) We talk about our futures and being together forever, and have high goals for ourselves for our lives. My family sees our love and always says that we will be married someday, too.
I do not nag about this subject because I know that it can drive him away so I know that.
I guess all I can do is believe, thanks for all your help!! =)
2007-09-01 08:27:57 · update #2
Don't listen to those two.
It is completely normal to think about this. I mean, you feel like when you can't see him/be with him/ watch him yourself, he may be lying. But he has been faithful to you for 3 and a half years, that is a long time, especially for people in college. Now, this is totally normal, don't worry about it, and I do not think that he is cheating.
It's nice to find out what he is doing throughout the day, that would help you.
Send each other things through the mail, then you can know that it comes from the other person.
I hope you guys are always together, and that this works out for the best.
Good Luck!
2007-09-01 07:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by giving. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT's totally normal! It's normal to wonder about the one who's not with u. Even if they say it's ok, that's when ur like "but I know how other women are, and I know what men are capable of in the wrong situation". It's natural to think a good thing can and will come to an end, and u fear that as soon as ur totally cool and secure with ur bond that things will go wrong. There are all sorts of sinerios on y a woman would worry. IT's not fun not being able to trust anyone but urself, but that's the way it is.
Just keep urself busy with other things, so ur mind has less time to wonder. TAlk to each other during the week too...just ten minutes, or drop an e-mail to one another. Then, pray. Pray for faith, that ur man can resist temptation, and that he's telling u the truth, and is so into u, that u don't have to worry. OH, and it might also help to think that he might have the same worries of u. I mean, it's just natural to think if ur into someone, others will be too. But that just shows u care,and want to hang on to him. When he's with u, just concentrate on that...because constant reassurances can get tiring...he might wonder what he can do to make the questions stop. Make a pact that if the relationship goes south, that he'll let u know before ever cheating on u. Lots of hugs and kisses, and sweet gestures from both help too. IT's always nice to be wanted and needed, and one day, it'll just click that ur his one and only. Good luck.
2007-09-01 07:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! The universe (and its homes) is real powerful. I wager if you happen to repost your query at the Physics discussion board, you could get solutions that placed your questions extra into point of view. I suppose the physicists have precise theories to reply questions comparable to "while the grime and planets and all that ends does the universe? or does the blackness simply preserve goin on and on?" As for, "Why is there a Universe?" you can have to modify this question slightly; in any other case, the physics folks will give an explanation for the "Big Bang Theory," which, I'm assuming (dangerous dangerous dangerous), is not the reply you wish. So, you could ask, "Is there prohibit to the universe? And if it extends infinitely, is there a factor in which atomic topic/power ceases to exist? or some thing to that end result. As for G/god, there's no necessity for G/god to exist and for there to be a Universe. G/god, in accordance to a couple, created the universe. But this perception is handiest adequate for the reply 'Why is there a Universe?'--now not essential; but, no person, as of reward, has given a essential reply to the query 'Why is there a Universe?' Maybe in the future you'll deliver us this reply.
2016-09-05 20:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This same situation happened with me and my ex after being together 3 years...were a few hours apart at different schools, and saw each other once a month and holidays. I started getting paranoid whenever I'd visit him at the school cuz he never wanted me to go to his dorm or hang out with his new friends he had there...after months of me being paranoid and him reassuring me, I found out he was in fact cheating on me...his younger brother told me and that it had been going on for awhile....explains why he was so shady when i'd visit him! But my gut feeling was that something like this situation was goin' on...and it turned out to be right!
2007-09-01 07:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by sillylilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that crazy thing about a woman's intuition and it always being right? i never got that but i've seem it played out and they always been right. like if she think he is cheating then he probably is.
2007-09-01 07:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crazy? - No.
A little neurotic? - Yes
You complain of being worried, yet state that
you're sure there's nothing to worry about and
that your relationship is sound.
Whats happening?
Are you thinking of cheating?
Are you unsure of your commitment to him?
2007-09-01 07:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the biggest part of a long term relationship is trust....... you need to be secure with yourself and him... perhaps you need to be mature and have faith in the one you love...... you will drive him nuts with your insecurities......
2007-09-01 07:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋