help please i am so sad and pissed?

Question

my cousin darren i love him to death cuz out of all my cousins he is the only that actully stays with me since my dad died so he is 17 and i 14 ahnd he drove me to the mall and stuffa dn we hung out and what not and his mom calls and he had to say he with with his friend jimmy because his mom doesnt wnat him hanging around with me and she said u bettere no be with your cousin.what the hell did i do?nothin.she said he should hang out with his other friends and not me.thats not right at all right and i dont even di frinckin anything i have been mad since this happend yesterday/what do you think of this and no it's not cause she feels sad cause my died because she didnt really like him she just used him to fix stuff for her.what do you think of tthis i mean he is the only one that cares bout me but my mom.so you know why would she want to take him away.he is comin over on monday wethere she likes it or not and yesterday she told him if he hung out with me he would be in trouble

what do you think of this/

any advice?

i dotn care i am mad that is why and it is his mom.my mom is fine with it

our b days are only 5 days apart when he turns 18 i will be turing 15 in a few days after him

ewww hell no we r just frineds dont be gross he is just funny and stuff ause he my only cousin

sorry but i dont pray or go to church.an dhje is my family and i love him in that way so dont be sick

oops i emnt to tyep she said will u better not be there with ur cousin

Answer 1

Your aunt is probably worried about the cousing possibly getting into trouble for hanging out with underage people.
It all amounts to... when your cousin hits age 18, he will need to start hanging out with people his own age or older to avoid the appearance of wrongdoing or of corrupting younger people. He can get arrested for that.

All you can say is that this cousin is actually acting like family and trying to give you friendship and emotional support at a time when you need it the most. You can spell this out to whomever you need to.

In the meantime, school presents opprotunities to build a social support base. Try to get involved in some activities where you can socialize.

Answer 2

This doesn't make any sense, may be why you have no responders..at one point you say your mom said "You'd better be there (at the Mall) with your cousin" and at another point you say your mom says "Your cousin will be in trouble if he hangs out with you." I don't understand the conflicting emotions your mother is expressing to you. She may feel conflicted because she knows your cousin is family, is old enough to help her out, and she realizes you enjoy spending time with him, but she may also feel he is not the best influence. (In all honesty, not many 17 year olds are, they are trying to figure out their own lives, so even if they're on the right track they can be pretty confused) It sounds like she is trying to protect you from getting your feelings hurt. Maybe you are a little more attached to him than you should be, like a child needing social care, no offense, but you know, needy, and she doesn't want you getting your feelings hurt should you be going through a difficult time due to your dad's death. Anyway, I can't really say because I had difficulty understanding and relating totally to what you wrote, and I am older and in a different frame of mind, but I think I can see where your mom is coming from. Your cousin may be a loser that doesn't have enough friends in his own age group and he shouldn't be spending all of his time with you. Every now and then to help drive you somewhere or getting together for lunch isn't a bad thing, but there is probably a good reason why your mom thinks he should be hanging out with his friends and not you, it is very unlikely she would say this just to spite you from having a good time with him, because she is your mother and she loves you and has your best interest in mind almost second natured-ly because you are her child. Give yourself as much space as you can from your mom so that you can look at it from an outsiders perspective. Distance from your mom can help you to forgive and forget and start to appreciate her again. Keep your mind on school and anything positive you can to distract yourself from your negative feelings. Remember that feelings and hormones are like roller coasters---eventually the ride stops and everyone has to get off! Thank heavens for that!

Answer 3

She has bad feelings most likely due to your AGE and probably something your Dad did or didn't do years ago - this happens in families, NO, it is NOT right, but it happens all too often. My suggestions, is that you sit down and WRITE a letter to her and ASK what it was that you did or didn't do to HER that makes her be so negative towards you. Give her time to really think about it - hopefully she will take the time to write or call you back, and hopefully she will realize she did misjudge you and let your cousin hang with you.

If she DOESN'T write or call back, then RESPECT her wishes until you and her can have a mature face to face conversation. You are 14, and that will make it hard to gain respect from her - TRY to be as mature when speaking to her as possible. I am sorry this is happening to you - I went through it too.

Answer 4

Okay, it is cool to be friends with your cousin, but anything more is illegal. If you are looking to your cousin for love and intimacy, there is a problem, and that is probably why his mom doesn't want you hanging out. She is afraid he is spending too much time with you, and that he is or will see you as more than a friend soon.

My advice to you is to go ahead and spend time with your other friends. I am sorry that your dad died and he is there for you, but your friends should be too. You need to find a boy that is not a relative to be your boyfriend, and girls to hang out with and do girl stuff.

If the two of you are just friends and nothing else, just have him tell her that, or when you guys hang out, do it with other friends around so she doesn't feel that way. Looking to your cousin is a bad way to take things, and it sounds like there is more going on than you have said.

Answer 5

FIRST OF ALL LEARN TO SPEAK PROPERLY AND RESPECTFULLY.
SECONDLY I HOPE YOU ARE SPEAKING OF A PLATONIC LOVE AND NOT SEXUAL LOVE.HE IS YOUR COUSIN.YOU SHOULD BE CONCENTRATING ON YOUR SCHOOL WORK AND PRAYING TO GOD TO EASE YOUR HURT FROM LOOSING YOUR DAD.DON'T LET THE LOSS OF YOUR DAD WHO YOU LOVE DRIVE YOU TO SEEK OUT A REPLACEMENT LOVE JUST FOR THE SAKE OF FEELING LOVE.THAT IS NOT THE ANSWER DO WHAT YOUR FATHER WOULD BE PROUD OF.ALLOW YOURSELF TO GROW UP HEALTHY IN MIND BODY AND SOUL AND FREE YOUR MIND OF SADNESS AND ANGER. PRAY!

Answer 6

I think you need to spend more time in English class. Your writing is so ridiculous that I can't even follow what you're saying.

Answer 7

that is a hardone to take, first sorry about your dad and please try real hard to get along with your aunt if something should happen to her you would feel bad or it could cause bad feelings towards you and your cousin. try to talk with your mom and please try hanging out with your own friends their are grievence groups that you can talk to your school councelor about going to visit you might find someone else to talk to and hangout with goodluck and take it easy okay on yourself and your aunt

Answer 8

It's weird how aunts can turns cruel. she is rude. well hopefully he turns 18 soon so he can do whatever he wants. she can't control him forever.

Answer 9

I think you should learn how to spell correctly.

Answer 10

I think its crappy that his mom is a jerk... talk to her.. or tell your cuz to talk to her 4 you