I realize that today is only September 1st, but in my family, if you don't make plans early, the holidays are a mess. We have always celebrated Christmas by driving from house to house. We have two children (ages 12 & 11) and they have never been able to spend a Christmas at home - all day long. I am putting my foot down this year and insisting that we are waking up in our own home and celebrating Christmas all day long in our own home! I have many family members that are upset by this. Do you think we have the right, after many years, to do what we want to do without anyone interfering?? Tomorrow is our 14th wedding anniversary, and after 14 years of marriage, we would like to begin some traditions at home without everyone else in the family (on both sides) being upset that we aren't in their home for Christmas.
2007-09-01 04:52:35 · 9 answers · asked by Beth 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes. Speaking of Christmas Eve.. I offered to make that the day where we make most of our rounds. You should have seen the e-mail and heard the messages on my machine from various family members. They are all so angry! They think we are being selfish.
And to the first person that replied to this question...we aren't going to be at home "alone" for Christmas. We are going to be together - as a family of four - for the first time! (Well, family of 5 including the dog - she gets gifts, too.)
2007-09-01 05:20:03 · update #1
Put your foot down. Stick to your plans. After 14 years, you and your family are certainly entitled to celebrate Christmas in the privacy of your own home.
Maybe the extended family will settle for a New Year's Eve party instead?
Good luck to you.
2007-09-01 05:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Suz123 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain - we have very similar family dynamics. We'd been discussing staying home for a couple of years, but had pushed off acutally doing it because we know family members would be hurt. We both have family in the area and it is always a juggling game.
Now, this year we are doing the same thing as what you are thinking about.
Last year I and my daughter had the stomach flu for Christmas, and as awful as it was, it made us realize that we could have a very Merry Christmas just the 4 of us and the rest of the family would be just fine. We had no choice last year so no one could get mad.
We are offering anyone to come to our house. We are offering to travel Christmas Eve or the day after.
But Christmas day we are staying put in our home.
Good Luck with things...I feel your pain.
2007-09-01 06:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was lucky growing up because my parents allowed us to stay home all day on Christmas. If our grandparents wanted to see us then they had to come to our house. I now have my own family and we alternate between my in-laws and my parents houses on Christmas Day but Christmas Eve is for our family only and we do not travel anywhere. I think that your children are old enough now that you don't have to tote them around all over the place on Christmas. If people want to see them that badly then they can come to you. The holiday season is not just that one day. I feel for you. Keep your foot down and stand firm. Someday your kids will be grown and have kids of their own. I'm sure you will want them to have memories of many holidays at your home and not at other peoples. Good Luck.
2007-09-01 07:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make your house one of the Family stops. You have a right to spend the holidays how you want to, or visit your family on Christmas eve.
2007-09-01 05:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by smbbkc 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's you life do as you want. You have every right to spend the day at home if you want. Maybe offer to your family that they come to your house for the day instead?
2007-09-01 05:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 15:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being selfish. So what if you want to stay at home this one year? Tell your family to respect your wishes and to drop the subject.
2007-09-01 06:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Utena 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could have your whole family come to your house for the holidays. I think Christmas is a time for family, not to be spent at home alone all day.
2007-09-01 05:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by flutterflie04 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
They'll get over it.
You have every right to do so.
2007-09-01 09:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋