recently came out of a 5 year relationship , but still have contact wit her ,theres alot of history there , she rings me up when shes feeling down so we meets up 4 d chat . we lost our baby 2years ago b4 her 1st birthday , which tore us apart in d end because im not 1 for talking about it and shes d complete opp., ive just been offered a job in spain but shes gone bananas even tho we both know its finished 4 good . i need some words of wisdom . im only 27 so i can go and make a fresh start 4 myself away from here coz i feel im stuck in a rut . why am i finding it so hard 2 chose should i stay or go when i know i dont want bk in d relationship. she dont want bk either but she wont let me move on . any words 4 me that could give me bk some peace of mind
2007-09-01 04:02:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on with your life. This would be best for both of you. If you don't start your own life, she won't be able to do so either.
You will always have ties with her because of the baby. But do you really want a relationship with someone you don't love and who reminds you of painful moments in your life?
2007-09-01 04:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be pleased whilst matters externally are well and unhappy whilst they don't seem to be is to position your happiness within the arms of matters past your manipulate. This will motive anxiousness given that you don't have any means of coping with matters and your happiness in from your succeed in. However cultivating an interior happiness based handiest upon the way you suppose at the within will create an interior peace in order to permit you to stand something occurs within the external and stay pleased/peaceable inside your self. It is the important thing to Happiness in step with the Dalai Lama. It takes effort and time however I am an illustration that it may be completed.
2016-09-05 20:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with someone for 9 years. similar situation. Its always fun to make-up. I know its so hard, but I would take the job in Spain. You can still keep in touch. And who knows .if its meant to be you will get back together. She will move there or who knows, ytsirk
2007-09-01 04:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by ytsirk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you feel is right for you because if you dont you will regret it
2007-09-01 04:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by stardu5t7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you need sometime to clear your head and take the job
2007-09-01 04:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋