ok... I've always been really quiet and seclusive. I don't really like being the center of attention, and I think I drive people away because I'm so quiet... I guess I don't really come off as being little miss sunshine, but I've just been this way since we moved here almost 4 yrs. ago!! please help, is there a name for this, or a way I can beat it?!?!
2007-09-01 03:58:07 · 9 answers · asked by Tessa 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Tessa, I'm sort of the same way, very much so around new people. I don't know think it is anything to worry about, just find someone who respects that aspect of you, and they'll never get pushed away. As long as you and the other person are on the same page, I don't think they'll be driven away.
I personally like to be by myself and I never got into parties and large crowds. I find it very hard myself, because my last girlfriend pretend to be that way for the most part and when we broke up, she claimed she wasn't herself and the reason I brought it up is because I know what it's like to look for something in anything at all. I personally think those qualities of you, is just who you are, so take pride in that - and don't let anybody change you because if you change yourself, you can really become unhappy.
I probably sound confusing lol but if you ever want to chat further just email me!
2007-09-01 04:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by revolution_cry9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Social anxiety is certainly a possibility, but it may be something much simpler. You may just be a 'type B' personality. Some people are just not comfortable in the limelight, even among friends and family. And that can make you feel as if you are somehow not 'normal'.
If your situation really bothers you some kind of therapy might be helpful, but if you are young (under 20 or so) you might just wait as see if you 'mature' out of some of your discomfort. Part of growing up is learning to accept ourselves as we are which in turn makes us more comfortable and therefore more 'sociable'.
2007-09-01 11:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being shy: I am too, almost painfully so at times. Though less so than I used to be.
There is in fact a condition where the person is afraid of social interaction.
You can try several things: Find a counselor who can help you deal with your anxiety.
Or find some group activity that you really want to be involved in, and jump in feet first- before you can talk yourself out of it. It'll be scary at first, but if you keep on going you might find you enjoy it.
Good luck!
2007-09-01 11:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety, Depression. You can take medication for this. It will slowly fade away, but not completely. You might be giving people body signals that are not welcoming. You should smile more and make an effort. I went through the same thing a few years ago. I wish you the best!!
2007-09-01 11:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by nono 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really would go and talk to the doctor about this one Tessa. You could have nothing wrong, depression or a social anxiety problem! It's so hard to say. You can sort this out without meds tho so think carefully before taking them if the doctor offers them to you. CBT is the way to beat it. Positive thinking, relaxation and distraction, hard to do without some kind of counselling or psychological help.
2007-09-01 11:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Social anxiety. You may consider seeing a therapist and also your doctor for medication, which is not a cure but a tool.
2007-09-01 11:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by emtd65 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
haha tessa i wouldn't wear trashy makeup if someone PAYED me. u probably do everyday though:]
ur 13?? eew. stay out of my questions u baby.
i hate people like u. ur all quiet in real life but online u suddenly say whatever u think? ur pathetic
2007-09-01 13:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Abba 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I don't know but the first person sounds about right
2007-09-01 11:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have avoidant personality disorder
2007-09-01 22:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by Ghost♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋