You are an adult. All of your brothers & sisters have moved out of the house. As far as you know, your parents have been happily married your entire life.
One day you are walking downtown, and you happen to see your Mom walking "arm-in-arm" with a man who is not your father. It's obvious by their closeness, that they are romanticly involved.
Just then, your Mom notices you. She runs up to you and says, "Please don't tell your father. It would kill him."
Do you tell your father or not?
2007-09-01 03:52:11 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If I dont tell him, Id die of guilt of having to hide such a thing.
If I do, I know it would give him a heart attack or something or he might actually do something to hurt my mom or the other man in a fit of fury.
Hmmm...tough one. and Ive no idea what Id do :( apart from maybe telling my mom to quit it or just get a divorce.
2007-09-01 03:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Antares 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to step up and tell your father on her own. It isn't right for her to put you in that position. She has been caught now it is time for her to face the consequences. If she is unhappy with your father be it what ever reason she needs to be an adult about it and tell him. Now she is not only hurting him she is hurting you. Tell her if she doesn't you will because keeping this secret will hurt your relationship with your father.
2007-09-01 11:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, I would tell my father. What your mother is doing, is developing a bad reputation for herself. Not to badmouth her or anything, but she is telling the world she is a s-l-u-t. She is going to be shunned by society if she doesn't stop this affair if she is having one. TELL YOUR FATHER. Then you need to sit down with a family counseler, and work things out.
2007-09-01 11:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd loose a lot of respect for her and I'd tell her that she has a few days to tell him or I will and I'd tell her not to guilt me into silence because it was not my actions that led to this, but hers.
But honestly if I was in the situation I don't know what I'd do, it's not my business, but it is my family, so I'd be very torn. It's easy to say what you'd think you'd do , but when it actually comes down it, that's another story.
2007-09-01 11:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by Annalissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her to tell him, or I would.
But I really wouldn't. I just couldn't lie to my dad. If he asked me about it, if he suspected it, I would tell him the truth.
Fortunately, I don't have to worry about that because:
1. My dad's been dead for almost sixteen years.
2. My mom would not ever have had an affair, and neither would my dad.
3. My parents were happily married for thirty-four years.
If you're in the hypothetical situation that you gave, I'm very sorry for you.
2007-09-01 11:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope
none of your business
unfortunate and may cause you some grief but you do not know the entire story and you have not the right to upset your father with the news
2007-09-01 10:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by fretochose 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no , but I would have words with mum and try to understand what is happening
perhaps our view of dad is wrong and mum has been unhappy for many years
perhaps mum simply doesnt love dad any more but doesnt know how to tell him
then I would ask mum to tell dad and to get this out in the open if I felt it was the right thing to do
but I would not tell dad myself
2007-09-01 10:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think what you do is sit down with your mother and understand her position. You should try to find a way for your mother to tell your father that's she been cheating on him and is repentant, assuming of course that she really is repentant. And you should try very much to stay out of it.
However, assuming she is not repentant, then you tell your father.
2007-09-01 10:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by William D 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hell yeah, I would tell on Pops. Since the mom is a coward to hide this, then let the rocks roll.
2007-09-01 10:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. Honestly, it's not your business. Most societies have rules for conducting affairs and one of those rules is that the mother (in this case) can't flaunt it in front of the family or their circle of friends. Maybe you could remind her of that. And also, you don't have enough facts to start taking sides (yes, ratting Mom out is taking sides).
2007-09-01 10:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋