What can i do...?

Question

Well, i feel like wat people say is eating me up inside and i hate that... How can i get rid of it? ... I dont want to care wat they say or think, i want to care and feel wat i say and think... Pleas help.. No stupid answers... Thanx.

Answer 1

well, its going to be hard, but you can do it. its all in your thinking, and you must change the way you think. first ask yourself why are you letting it bug you, what are they saying that is eating you up, why do you really care what they say?? etc. once you figure out these simple answers then you can start to change your thinking. its hard to do, but it can be done i have done. i dont care what others think or say about me anymore to the point where it eats me up inside, it took a long time, but i have done it. now i must admit everyonce in a while, yes i still let it happen, but then i ask myself those questions and get over it. changing your thinking is like changing a habit, it takes time but can be done with work and time. good luck!!

Answer 2

Ok so you've posted 2 questions that are calling for help. You don't give enough detail about your feelings except for talking about this boyfriend you've moved away from. Are you sure you're not just feeling weeny bit heart-broken at the moment? I don't know how old you are and i don't want to sound patronising, but you sound quite young. You are reading the mental health section and are questioning if what you're feeling is depression, and yes, to a degree you probably are but this is NORMAL depression. Hey, i'd feel sad if i had to move away from a boyfriend, or end a 'holiday romance' because of distance. Understand that that is normal to feel that way and there is nothing wrong with that. We all cry and we all have days when we feel like sh*t! The difference between normal feelings of depression, and clinical depression is huge. You may think your way into depression, it's easy to do, but i wouldn't advise it!! It's all to do with brain patterns positive/negative thought cycles combined with negative life experiences. Negative chemicals in the brain are released in too higher doses and the positive chemicals are stifled. That's where meds can help, but they are a band-aid over the real problem. There are other catagories of mental health where some of this doesn't apply at all eg psychosis, scyizophenia but you have not got those problems. I would say give yourself some time here, it's ok to be feeling how you are right now and the chances are you'll bounce back like the majority of people do....if you don't and these feelings go on and on then go and see a doctor. Good luck :))

Answer 3

(If my answer helps a lot choose it as best)

Your not a follower and you are realizing that it really bothers you what people say. You realize that it shouldn't bother you.
Reinforce confidence in yourself and that your on the path you have chosen. Here is a poem by Robert Frost.

1. The Road Not Taken


TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth; 5

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same, 10

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back. 15

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference. 20

Answer 4

I had this same problem and if it gets to you as bad is it did me then it will not stop over night. The best thing to do is to listen to the things that benifit you and use them to make you stronger... everything else is not significant. Also it might help if you become more confident in yourself and are able to know what you want...then what everybody else says really wont matter... start out little with doing something like pickin out an outfit...when you wanna ask someone how it would look, just decide what you want even if you are kinda uncomfortable with it at first. make your own decisions based off your opinions instead of others...thats a start. was that anyhelp?

Answer 5

People have been telling you to listen to others, but I think the saying "know thyself" is to me the most appropriate here. How about you consider keeping a journal. One for your daily life, and one for your dreams. If in some time you can see a therapist that will come in handy, the dream journal. The life journal is not supposed to be organized or written to entertain someone. It is to point blank speak the points, the ideas, the hurts, the destruction and please in big letters write down the blessings. God knows we all see the pain in your question. If you know the source of your pain and write about it creatively, then when you come to those who you want to ask for advice it will be clearer for us to know how to help you. It sounds like the source may be complicated and huge. Even better to write it down. It will make you more aware of your inner voice and it will give you power to say in some way what it really feels like for you. God Bless.

Answer 6

some times you have to listen to the people .

(there is no smoke without fire)

maybe the will help you to change some thing wrong in your
character.

but not all people .

listen to the people who care about you .