I am disabled and have not got many friends and I dont go out much as I cant go out unless my mum takes me. I feel as if I will never find anyone to love me as I am in a wheelchair and have a progressive brain disorder called leukodystrophy. I feel lonely all the time as nobody ever comes to see me or rings me up and I feel a little upset by the fact that no one must care about me in the smallest way. Please help me as I miss having any kind of relationship with anyone that will be my friend.
2007-09-01 01:51:25 · 19 answers · asked by stardu5t7 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Julie i will always be you friend, i f you would like me to call you or take you out i would love toxxxxx.
2007-09-01 02:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
A few years ago I got somewhat depressed and felt a bit like yourself, although without the added stress of a disability.
Didn't go out much because I didn't feel like facing the world, friends would only come round if others were coming round too. I had put on loads of weight and had become quite ill.
I cant define the turning point when things began to get better for me but when it did things changed for me dramatically.
I lost 4 stone which boosted my confidence thus making me feel better about myself. I got back into work which occupied my mind and began feeling a whole lot better. The friends were ringing me most days inviting me out and through this et loads of new people. I guess what I am trying to get at is there is a way for you to go forward and that is to have some faith in yourself. You can obviously think for yourself judging by your questions and answers and your chosen profession is something to be proud of. It may take a while and a lot of effort to turn things around but you can do it. First step is positive thinking.
p.s you still look good in that top!
2007-09-01 10:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by mlud12000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things must be tough for you but it sounds like maybe you could have a lot to give to others rather than concentrating on your own problems. Perhaps you could help others, maybe young children who have disabilities, if not with any practical help then at least by talking to them, being a friend for them and helping them to cope with their problems. If you can find a way to do this then I'm sure you'll feel better about yourself and happier. Once you feel happier and more confident then you'll find that more people will want to be your friend. Just like flowers turning towards the sun, people turn towards warm and sunny people.
2007-09-01 02:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there,supportfind.com has some useful info about others in similar circumstances that may be of help. feel free to add me to ur contacts as im a good listener and dont abuse this site like so many others do. Some people find it hard to communicate with someone of ur needs which is maybe not their fault but dont know how to without feeling like theyve upset u in anyway. hope u find what ur searching for soon x
2007-09-01 02:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Argh bless, I'll be your friend 2!
But hey the Internet is a great place to make some new friends?
Have you ever tried hand crafting your own cards. It such a brilliant Hobby for people who spend alot of time indoors. I also make my own cards
have a look at this website to get some ideas and get your mum to take you to your local hobby craft
www.docrafts.co.uk
2007-09-01 01:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by twinkletwinkle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww come here! *pulls you in for a big hug* Hey, I have an idea! Let's be PEN PALS! Oh wait, no that's the old fashioned way of saying it....what's it now....ah yes, E Buddy's!! :D :D :D
I'm an avid writer and a very happy-go lucky person. My bubblinous ( is that a word?) and craziness will rub off on you!
Here: daisfunky@hotmail.co.uk
(anyone else need a friend? Drop me a line!)
Keep smiling honey. We're all here for you!
2007-09-01 10:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than waiting for some one to make friends or call you,take the initative.Whenever your mom or anybody takes you out,use that opportunity to make friends with people.Don't try to make them love you by making them have sympathy on you,just be yourself and be nice.Get their phone numbers and make it a duty to call or text them.You can only be happy if you want to be,no human can make you feel happy if you don't want to.So girlfriend throw away the cloth of self-pity which you've been wearing,disabiltiy is only a set-back if you see it as one.You're lucky to have a mom who is there for you many girls out there aren't that fortunate and what's more I love you!!!
2007-09-01 02:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try meeting other diabled people out there, they are lonely as well like you. Its not really people don't want to hang out with you, they just worried that if you cannot take care of yourself and they dont know how to take care of you. So I think if you show you are independent, Im sure you will have friends.
2007-09-01 02:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by Glenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel lonely as well cos i have the kids and cannot out much but i go to scrabble and church and a meeting tuesday even, i have grandchildren to care for. the best thing to do is just join a group life is not going to come to you, and their are some lovely people out thier who will accept you and those who do not are a waste of space.
2007-09-01 02:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
can you not join any local clubs i know your a man u fan and me living in manchester most of my life i am 2 my son is also disabled with cerebral palsy so i know how you feel man u do like specail days for disabled people also there must be some local groups like carers groups i'm sure they would give you some advise
2007-09-01 09:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out 2 u star , we all go through bad patches some time or other in our lives , it might seem harder at times but u must keep your chin up and get through it . heres a hundred hugs from a caring Irish soul oxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoox
2007-09-01 02:20:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋