i will post my thoughts on this later. iam curious about peoples opinions on this
2007-09-01 01:27:41 · 50 answers · asked by subaru222 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
well iam of the oinion that it is a privartly own place who reserve the right to have who they want on their property, that been said i thinkits only right that she was asked to leave. i have a low threshhold for screaming kids and have left a few places due to screamng kids. its good for business. as if you weigh up the pros and cons. hey have lost one customer where as they have the prosibilty of lossing all who were in there at the time i knowwhat makes sence to me
i may be wrong but looking at the majority of responces i would say most people are of the same opinion
2007-09-02 23:25:49 · update #1
It depends.
How much the friendship meant to me; and how much I liked the cafe.
2007-09-01 01:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think so. It depends on the circumstances though. If the child had been screaming it's head off for some time, and an approach had already been made by staff to offer assistance or to try and resolve the situation, fair enough; then try to calm the child or leave for a few minutes. I would object personally to being asked to leave anywhere because my child was screaming.
On the other hand, if the child is very young, ie, at baby stage; then babies cry, sometimes for no reason at all, and there is not a lot you can do about it at times! A toddler of two or three, however, having a tantrum is quite a different story!
It depends - there are not enough facts in your question to give a good answer. When I go for a meal, I expect to be able to eat it in relative peace and quiet without having to endure the squalling of other people's children; and by the way - I have five of my own..
2007-09-01 05:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by marie m 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing worse than going for a drink or a meal and hearing a childs constant scream. Yes, kids do it but this does not mean that others have to put up with it. If a child cannot behave then the parent should remove the child from the premises. So no, i do not think you should boycott the cafe unless the owner was rude in asking you friend to leave.
2007-09-01 10:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by benn26k 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
before I answer this, I'll just say I have a 3 year old son and I'm just waiting to go into labor any day now with my daughter.
i guess it would depend if the place was actually a "child friendly" environment. I mean if it was a nice, upscale restaurant, then probably not. However, if it was a family restaurant and there are many kids in the place at any given time, then probably. Places that normally cater towards families should be more tolerant to upset kids then places that aren't.
On the other hand, if the child was really acting up that bad, the parents should have taken the child outside to calm down. If that didn't work, the family should change their order to "to go" and eat at home.
2007-09-01 02:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by njyecats 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't. She should have been trying to take care of and calm the child down. If she made no effort to do so then she's on her own. Yes babies cry because they have no other means to communicate but if what the parent is doing is not calming the baby down then they should leave a public place or at the very least take the child into the restroom or outside so they don't disturb others. My husband and I have 2 sons and they have been taught how to behave in public. It wasn't that difficult so I don't understand why more parents can't do it.
2007-09-01 05:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just how badly was the child screaming. If the child was out of control they might have had the good sense to remove them themselves.
We all appreciate children can have tantrums, but If they are really disturbing the other customers , i believe the owner has the right to ask them to leave.
Children have to learn how to behave in society for their own future benefit.
Personally it would make me go back, knowing I could get a peaceful cup of coffee. Sorry
2007-09-01 04:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I know what it's like when your kid won't stop, and people are looking at you. You feel so angry. But I found the best thing was to just leave until the child stopped. It was better for the child(no audience or interference), better for everyone else, and most of all better for me. Personally I never understand people who insist on staying put when their child is screaming like that - it's no good for anyone, and the child needs to learn not to do that, it's inappropriate.
So no I wouldn't. Infact I'd be on the side of the cafe who asked her to leave, because it is kind of annoying and, like I said, the child can't be allowed to disturb other people like that. How do you think people learn to be considerate? To stay there was inconsiderate.
2007-09-01 12:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by Acai 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I've been lucky. My children just looked around inspected the loos and eat nothing. My grandson was the same but would sometimes wander off and talk to people, His is a nice child (I am of course slightly biased) but he always gets a fairly good reception. Middle aged and elderly couples are best because they have had children and grandchildren and are happy to talk. In fairness courting couples and newly weds do not want that, any more than most single diners
2007-09-01 10:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by Scouse 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would have taken my child out of the cafe before I had to be asked to leave. It would have been the right thing for your friend to do. Do not make the cafe suffer for the fact that they were just trying to take care of the majority of there customers.
2007-09-04 03:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by good directions 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
Sometimes parents are rude not to take out screaming children. When my child would start acting badly, I would remove him from the place as to not disturb the others. If he calmed down, then we would go back in.
If your friend just sat there letting the child scream, ignoring the fact that everyone else was offended, then yes, she should be asked to leave. She was in the wrong.
2007-09-01 06:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would make it a point to go there as often as possible. If the parent can not control the child in public and does not consider the impact of the child on others around them the owner should deal with them.
My fave coffee shop has a note that says:
"Unattended children will be given a double shot espresso and a free puppy"
Cute and effective.
2007-09-01 01:55:09 · answer #11 · answered by sunny w 3 · 10⤊ 0⤋