not have me?
iam 30 ive had long term psychological problems from being 16, through alot of trauma and abuse. i was born in st paul de vence (france). im also half native indian to.
im a strong noble character and i work valiantly on my issues, i have survived alot of hardship and unfairness done to me here in britain at the hands of certain peoples.
i now wait for therapy, but my ultimate goal is to relocate from the uk, to move to a hot sunny climate and build a new life, but first i have to work through my problems.
i get very frustrated that i cannot leave britain now like i would like, because of my circumstance, waiting for therapy etc..
plus,i don't like it here, im not a brit,& i do not identify with them or their culture.
bottom line is though, i wish to immigrate from uk, and soon.
i wanting to know how i can deal with a patronizing, belittling little dirt pig like this brit guy?
he says i cant get into the states,they wont accept or like me..he was taunting me on msn
2007-09-01 00:00:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
im very angry towards this guy. i dont ask for this, but life as habit for make this type of people to always find me....
is there any truth to his claims?
im hoping for quality advise
thankyou
2007-09-01 00:02:25 · update #1
Don't listen to him. It's not worth allowing him in to mess with ya.
He knows it's going to eat at you and that's why he's doing it. One of those mind games you loathe and despise so much.
He's in the UK, he's not on American soil, he can't speak for us.
Don't give him another thought.
2007-09-01 00:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Totem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the negative comments. Keep working on resolving your problems. Set goals for yourself and keep an image of success in your mind at all times. Life is precious. Stay positive. As for coming to the US, there is a lot of opportunity here. There are also people with problems, so the fact that you have problems is not really an issue. This guy that is taunting you is probably jealous of your plans. Stop reading his messages. Stay focused on fulfilling your dreams. Good luck.
2007-09-01 00:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by ~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you complaining about this 'brit' man telling you that you can never move to America when in the next sentence you say that you know you can't go due to your circumstances - like waiting for therapy etc. Is it simply another case of 'him' telling you something so close to the truth that you can't/won't accept it - or is it simply that you don't like all of his previous - and probably honest - answers - like when you sit there and tell us that:::::
"....i don't like it here, im not a brit,& i do not identify with them or their culture.
bottom line is though, i wish to immigrate from uk, and soon.
i wanting to know how i can deal with a patronizing, belittling little dirt pig like this brit guy?
he says i cant get into the states,they wont accept or like me..he was taunting me ...."
(that was a direct quote from your question in case you don't recognise it!) - yet despite all this, you've happily taken all the free medical treatment and received all the monetary allowances from the government of the UK - EVER SINCE YOU WERE SIX YEARS OLD which means that WE'VE KEPT YOU FOR 24 YEARS in medical and other forms of assistance.
THEN YOU HAVE THE CHEEK TO COMPLAIN WHEN SOMEBODY HAS A GO AT YOU FOR IT ON MSN.
Do you find that REALLY surprising?
Most of the time you come on here moaning about your circumstances and telling us your life story over and over again and tell us that you don't IDENTIFY with us (the BRITISH - NOT "BRITS" - YOU'RE NOT IN AMERICA!) or like our culture, yet you don't like it when somebody chucks it back at you do you, despite the fact that you've not been doing so badly out of us for the vast majority of your life! How about trying to be grateful for once, just for a nice change !
2007-09-01 21:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The way you deal with him is to shut him out and off.
Your history of abuse makes you a prime candidate to continue it by finding and trusting people who don't deserve your trust.
Be aware that not all of the US is hot and sunny, and since you are not native to the US either you would still take your issues with you. In the US we tend to welcome people who are willing to work, and have skills, otherwise you will find some difficulties as we do not have in place a system in which you will be able to access mental or physical health care, that might leave you in even worse shape here than there.
2007-09-01 00:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that this person has a real problem and is enjoying the fact that he can be such a nuisance to you. if possible, ignore him. if not just don't let him know that you put any stock into what he says...i mean since when is he the authority on every country's immigration laws? even if he were, there could not be a democracy that would refuse you unless you were contagious or a felon. remember you are strong as well as gentle and kind and that some people do not deserve your trust or respect or even your attention. as they say, let it go in one ear and out the other (even if there is a highly complicated path through your mind to get through)
2007-09-01 12:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmm.... i have over 11 mental porblems and has born with most of them but developed some as i grew up not by abuse howeverbut i was only diagnosed 11 months ago n im being diagnosed with new 1s every day. if he was taunting u block his user. u mite be banned from visiting certain countries if u have certain mental probs but i dont fink usa should be a problem if dey disrimintive agesnt u call police on immigr8ion ppl. i have alos lived in 4 countries have very small nativer american heritage(1/8) and live in uk but dont indentify miself with the culture.
2007-09-01 00:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by noob hustler 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there will always be people who hate you no matter where you go. but there will also be people who will turn out to be your closest friends. if you do come over here to America, stay the hell away from the south! that ****** that said that you couldn't get in and they wont like you here probably tried to get in and couldn't. it will probably be very hard for you to get in to, because with our current president, every one who isn't American is a terrorist. tell that brit guy to sod off. by the way, we have some great therapists over here. hope you can make it. if u wanna talk email me at pyro_metal_maniac@yahoo.com
2007-09-01 09:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the guy has a major problem. It is not true that you can't get into the states. Delele the messenger and download again with a different screen name and then he will leave you alone.
2007-09-01 00:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by jackie_jabar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the jerk to piss off and to try using his brain for more than thoughts of breakfast. The US, believe it or not, is very friendly...if not why do we have so many people wanting to come to us. You do what you need to do to make yourself better. It isn't like we don't accept people. But you do need to have a visa..and I am not sure how that works. Also, try just not responding to this guy. Bullies thrive on power, he has it when he upsets you. Try laughing at his words, and telling him..Oh..right, OK...sure, whatever..and ignore him. They hate that, bullies do.
I would trade places with you in the UK if I could. I love it there.
Good luck, and don't let racist, jerk off pigs turn you from your path !!!
2007-09-01 00:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by Robin B 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Personally I would block this guy from your messenger, you said this yourself that you do not need the constant belittling comments from him.
Try going to citizens advice and ask them about emmigration, or even try more research online.
2007-09-01 00:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋