without offending them (at least not coming across as that way)? He is very obese and doesn't bathe regularly. I know it's probably difficult for him to bathe properly due to his size and he is a bit slow. Other people call him names behind his back and even those who are kind to him don't want him in their car and such due to the odor. I think if he cleaned up the kind ones would bother with him more.
2007-08-31 21:34:27 · 20 answers · asked by thefinalresult 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Joseph, he is not already getting the message as he is slow. Thus my reason for trying to help him out with this.
2007-08-31 22:02:06 · update #1
Start out by making it clear that you are bringing it up because you care about him, and then just be honest. There is a product called Comfort Bath, it's like large baby wipes with rinse free cleanser on them-you can get it at Walmart, maybe get a package and show him, saying" it's easier to bathe frequently with these" to help him. Good luck and bless you for your compassion.
2007-08-31 22:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by barbara 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I went to tech school with someone like that. They were probably about a 400 pounder. He had the worst odor on hot days and expecially after he'd use the restroom. Well, we all finally got fed up with it, and some people started telling him to his face that he stinks. He started wearing more cologne after that, which helped mask the odor. You have to remember, it's probable not that he doesn't bath on a regular basis, but it's because he probably needs to bath 2-3 times a day. I always noticed with our hefty, that in the morning he smelled fine, but as the day progressed, so did his smell. It wasn't a regular B.O. smell either, the best way to describe it was it was a odd, yet really foul smelling funk. Send him a private letter, explaining to him that he stinks--You don't even have to say who it is from. Just try to keep it to the point, and not to go into much detail about the smell.
2007-09-01 04:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well For Me.. I Just tell that person honestly but i use it as a joke also in a careful way.. and it works ahaha yeah.. just as simple as saying u smell dude~ [with a really serious face.. hold.... then say this "nah man.. juz kidding.." laugh a lil' but not to much.. and at the end say this "Seriously..."
Seriously just be honest and they'll understand.. use my style at your own risk!! :D there always ups and downs.. well lots of people use different kind of tricks to do this which will make themselves more awkward..
You know I'm a fan of the KISS way of doing things: Keep It Simple Stupid.
2007-09-01 04:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by Solo Preguntar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
firstly you are right not to offend him . but please take that stereotype out of your mind if you do - obese people are not associated to stinky people...!!!!!
you could talk (start a topic of having a bath after sport or a walk or whatever) about why you enjoy having a bath every day and see his view and so that topic comes up and then try to convince him to have a bath or at least a shower every day saying that it is the healthy way to live. listen to him and see his view and counter his bad reasoning if he has any with good reasons to have a bath every day...
then maybe you could tell him that you are saying all this because you "care for him" and that other people are laughing and mocking him because they think he smells bad..
hope I helped and good luck...
but tell him you must if not he might not even realize it...maybe he has a bad sense of smell...
2007-09-01 04:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by nnnn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He might and might NOT get the message through a perfume gift (In my opinion). It depends on how much he is of a "quick thinker".
I think you should tell him through a paper note/sms/email - but by an anonymous.
In the note/email/sms.. make it clear how important it is for a person to maintain his hygiene for his own personal health and to gain respect of others... insist on how taking care of ones own cleanness is something NOT to be ignored or overlooked.
I do NOT think that anyone would ACCEPT a face-to-face comment from someone else telling them they SMELL BAD.
Plus, you don't want him to always be embarrassed from you, or hate you for showing him the bitter-truth.
Find an anonymous way to contact him, and proceed ;) Make sure to make your point CLEAR.
Good Luck!
2007-09-01 04:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by Serendipity 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
Explain to him that you are his friend and will help him anyway you can, then just ask him if he has a problem with bathing himself as you have noticed that he is a little bit smelly.
He might actually be glad that you asked.
2007-09-01 04:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy a bar of soap and some deodarant, and leave it on his desk, in his locker, somewhere!!!
I once had a boss who had bad breath, so I bought a bottle of Listerine and left it on his desk, and he used it because his breath got better.
A couple of weeks later, there was a layoff, and I was the first one out the door, and I always felt it was because someone saw me put the Listerine on his desk.
2007-09-01 10:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by samdugan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Offer to give him a Lynx Snakepeel man wash. Look on the Lynx website for more details!
2007-09-01 05:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by Secret Cola Ninja 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bob Saget
2007-09-01 04:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
THIS IS WHAT I WOULD DO...I WOULD FIRST FIND A SORTA GIFT PACK OF BAR SOAPS AND COLOGNE AND DEODORANTS...AND I WOULD WRAP THEM ALL UP AS A GIFT. FIND AN OCCASSION TO PRESENT THEM....I WOULD THEN TELL HIM THAT PEOPLE LOVE THIS SCENT AND THAT HE SHOULD USE THIS SOAP IN HUS DAILY SHOWER...AND WHEN HE IS THRU TO USE BOTH THE COLOGNE AND DEO. AND THEN I WOULD PROMISE A NEW SOAP WHEN HE WAS DONE WITH
2007-09-01 04:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋