I'm 16 yrs old and I want to propose my girlfriend which is 17.I asked my parents and they say I'm matured enough to make my own decission.I've bought a ring yesterday, at first i wanna give it on her birthday but I think I wanna ask her to marry me, I know its too early but what do you think?
2007-08-31 20:17:27 · 17 answers · asked by shapixx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say propose to her and be engaged, but don't marry until you both finish school. You may never find another, so take your chance.
2007-08-31 20:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're way too young. The person you love at 16 might not be the person you love at 17. You will do a LOT of changing in your late teens and early twenties. Don't make a life altering decision at such a young age. You think you know what you're doing at 16, but trust me, you don't. If you're really meant to be with this girl, then marriage can wait until you are at least 20.
Realistically, chances are that if you marry at 16 you will be divorced at 21. Not a good thing. Wow, your parents really said you're mature enough to make your own decision? Well, trust me, you're not. No one is at 16. So, if you guys really have a love that can last a lifetime, then there is no harm in waiting a few years to make a legal commitment.
2007-08-31 20:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is something called a promise ring... basically you are engaged to become engaged at a future date.
I don't think anyone should get married before they've finished college and have been out in the work force for a couple of years. You're talking about 24-25 years old. Most people don't really know who they are until age 30. It takes a good 10 years out of your parents' house to really find out who you really are... you do more growing up in those 10 years than in the previous 10. That is one reason why so many early marriages break up.
Truth is, when you start living together and making love, you are also staring at making babies. It is not romantic. It is life-jarring and demanding and tiresome. The responsibility is ponderous.
I'm 47 and I think I've seen it all.
2007-08-31 20:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage?
you don't sound sure of this. If you're not sure, then DON'T do it just for the sake of your momentary impulse. Because marriage is a heavy responsibility and it requires a lot of effort. Don't end up having a divorce. And besides, do you even have the money to live a marriage life, being only 16?
2007-08-31 20:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by mareyys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good to hear that you love her enough to spend the rest of your life with her. But, in my opinion, you're too young. I'd wait until you had both graduated from high school. It's better for your relationship that way.
But, if you really can't wait, I suppose you should just go ahead and do it. You must remember though that she's only 17, and She may feel that she may want to wait after high school, or after college.
Hope that helps and good luck!
2007-08-31 20:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Carly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you kidding me? you have a lot of life to live before you should even consider marriage. it might seen like a good idea at first but give it a few years and you will be sick of the other person guaranteed. you will regret it when your in your 20's and your friends are bringing home a different girl from the bar every night and your stuck at home with a naggy wife.
2007-08-31 20:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by deon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're POSITIVE that you want to be with this girl forever, I don't see much of a problem. Is she someone you'd like to grow old with and perhaps even start a family with in the future? It's also important to know what you're going to do, and what job you will be getting.
2007-08-31 20:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by !vonne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's too early... I wanna get married when I'm 25. I know it's dumb to plan these things cuz they never work out.
I'm 16, btw.
2007-08-31 20:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by Ally 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i guess it depends on which state you live in...there are different specifications for legally married ages...but i personnally think you are stupid for doing this and your parents are stupid for letting you...you matured enough...well guess what enough is not going to get you far in this life time...why dont you wait until you are fully matured...from the questions you asked and scenario you gave...i would say about 45 years old...then ask her
2007-08-31 20:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by oraple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you're too young. why don't you wait a couple more years? if you both were meant to be, she wouldn't go anywhere.
but i salute you that you are brave enough and have commitment on things like that that would take a lot of courage for others to do especially at young age like you. and i bet you love her very much.
but my best advice is
listen to your heart
good luck!
2007-08-31 20:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by Schatzi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋