I have a daughter(with 5 children) that uses me to the limit.If she is in the right mood I can see the kids in school holidays only to find that after I have returned them home I am being accused of saying terrible things.My daughter since the age of about 25 has always done this to me also she finds ways to blame me for everything that happens in her life(BAD THINGS) she has been on drugs for many yrs but I don't need to hear that this is why these things happen because it's not.She hits me,she has stabbed me not seriously but I had to get stiches.She tells me that she can beat me at any game that she plays with me because she can win mental games over me because of the kids,I love them!People have told me to forget her that she is worth the trouble but I honestly believe that a mother's love is unconditional,that's always been my motto.I have had to attend children courts with her,you name it I have gone through it with her.I'm at the end of the road of not knowing what to do anymore
2007-08-31 19:57:51 · 5 answers · asked by jamie h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
WOW...sorry to hear all of the crap that you are going through. It sounds very serious to me. My first thought is about your five grandchildren...if your daughter treats you that way, how does she treat her kids?
Sounds to me like she may have some mental health issues? Perhaps there are some community resources available to help the family (family counsellings??)
If she treats her children the same way she treats you, I would say that child protection needs to be contacted...they would be able to offer you, and your daughter support and resources.
Unconditional love can only go so far...and if you are being physically, mentally, and emotionally abused (which it sounds like she is doing to you), then it is becoming unsafe to be associated with her.
One suggestion would be that you tell your daughter that you are not willing to talk to her or see her until she goes to get some professional help for her aggression/issues...this will be VERY difficult I'm sure, but may be what she needs in order to change her ways...
And perhaps you could have a schedule for visiting with your grandchildren.
Good luck, and please make sure that you take care of yourself
2007-08-31 20:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get professional help involved. This is not a healthy environment for the kids. It is dangerous and destructive for you. Your daughter needs professional help to get her off the drugs.
First, talk to Children's Protective Services... go in for an appointment and tell the caseworker what you have said here. File charges on her for the beatings, or at least at the next beating. Try to get custody of the kids.
If you don't have the wherewithall to handle the situation so that she gets help and the kids are safe, you need to stop being available to your daughter. Freeze them out. Don't babysit. Quit being user-friendly. Don't allow her to use the kids as bait. You can get a lot of control by turning away and not playing your daughter's psycho games.
2007-08-31 20:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no i think that is an outrage do you apreciate it when that happens? no i dont think so , heres my advice to you take a BIG HOLIDAY TO PARIS OR WHEREVER YOU WANT dont contact your daughter for a whole week(or just not help her with anything at all until she treats you nicely) ignore her until she begs down to her knees and says sorry! then i guess you'll be fine!
2007-08-31 20:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People dont just wake up and become crazy like that,Im sorry to tell you but something must have happened in her life.you should ask yourself what kind of a parent you were to her.Im not trying to make you feel bad but if she has stabbed you and blamed you for BADTHINGS that happened to her.Obviously something wasnt right.
2007-08-31 20:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by just_me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need some type of professional intervention in this matter. Stand up to her. She's manipulative and cruel.
2007-09-01 03:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋