will "looks over personality" change in due time?

Question

i'm not cute, if someone were to rate me from 1 to 10, i'd be hovering somewhere ranging in the 4 or 6 section (im talking AVERAGE here)... im still in my late teens, im not interested in dating but what ive noticed so far is that looks triumph over personality for some reason. i tend to wonder, now that i'm growing up, if that will ever change... i have asked someone before, but no response, i think due primarily to looks... coming from asia, most guys tend to judge someone by their "fairness factor" and although im not completely dark, i have been called that as a reason for my 'uncuteness'...mind you, I DONT CARE ABOUT SKIN COLOR! but i am wondering, will this whole "looks over personality" concept change later on in life?

Answer 1

during the teen years and early 20's, looks matter the most--no matter what. i won't lie to you. you probably won't find someone till around the age of 30 or so. but eventually, men become less shallow and look deep into the soul. someone will fall deeply in love with you for your sparkling personality! just give it some time.

Answer 2

I'm rather average looking myself, and I don't know how old you are but in time you won't care, because you won't be interested in the type of guy who only wants the prettiest girls. When you meet the right person, it probably won't be someone who you would've even taken a second look at if you saw them walking down the street. It's just an attraction/chemistry thing. If you are a teen, what will change is that people will get over the ego thing where they feel obligated to date someone popular and skinny, etc. and look for the one they really want.

Answer 3

Honey I'm 25 years old, single parent of a three year old. I'm probably a negative 1,000 just because of that, looks included! LOL I'm harder on myself than others, but for me personality always wins over looks. There's nothing better than growing old with someone that you can connect with on so many levels and laugh about the oodles of wrinkle you both have!
It gets better, but there will always be vain people out there, just look at the ads and rejuvenation crap that people can buy! It's crazy the lengths people will go to these days to look 20 years younger and 90% of it doesn't work. Just focus on things that are more important and don't worry about this whole looks over personality junk. In time you'll meet someone who will notice your inner beauty and THAT will be the day you can tell the world IT'S PERSONALITY OVER LOOKS!
Have a great weekend!

Answer 4

I don't think that the "look" people are referring to is physical. I believe they are talking about the profile of the "average" person. Education & moral fibre do play a part in this profile. I think a large part is wanting people to adapt to what we consider as normal rather than us adaptng to what they consider normal. All Americans immigrated at some point and became part of the "Great American Melting Pot" that we pride ourselves on. Each culture added part of itself but became "American". Now we have hyphenated Americans who were born here. I'm not against retaining a sense of where we came from (my roots are from Ireland in the 1700's) but we need to get back to beig Americans. Ten to 15 years ago no one would have even thought about multi-lingual signs and documents as an accomidation to those that don't speak English. It was a given that all new immigrants would learn the language. Again I think we need to all get back to being Americans.

Answer 5

Yes, people do get more interested in personality when they grow up a little more. And there are people at every age who are less into looks and more willing to give someone a chance if they are fun to be around.

The important thing is to be confident and keep meeting people and talking to them. If you let yourself get shy and hide, then the nice people won't know you're there.

Good luck, and I bet you are cuter than you think you are.

Answer 6

well i think once you are really ready to settle down most people tend to go for personaility over looks becasue they realize that was just a fade for their younger years but they will still not definitly choose someone that is ugly though on a scale from one to ten your range an up will have both qualities so i dont think you have to worry about looking for a guy i hope this answers your question!

Answer 7

its NOT "looks over personality", its the guys you are meeting. Guys rate me (im being honest here) a 9. and guess what i've had the worst heartbreaks. one took sexual and emotional advantage of me (i thought he loved me) and the other one was an exbf who i later found out was two-timing myself and his GIRLFRIEND. imagine my surprise when i found out he lied to me and cheated on his girlfriend with me!!! these are just a few things that happened to me JUST THIS SUMMER. Trust me i have personality to go along with my looks too but when guys want ONE thing from you, they dont even give you a chance to find out about you. they fcuk and leave. i would die for the relationships some of these people have...if only i had a relationship like for a month! they dont know how lucky they are...

Answer 8

First of all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You're not it.
Second, looks don't change for everyone. Not 100%.
But your self attitude does, gradually. As for the concept, I doubt it. But everyone's different. For everyone to whom looks matter, there's a person to whom they don't- partially because there are different levels of beauty.

Answer 9

will I personally prefer personality over looks, no lie. sure the looks of a girl will encourage me to approach her but her personality is what makes her worth being around. people that just judge on looks are just shallow and should be ignored.

if you want to change your look or style, go ahead but make sure you stay true to yourself and never change your personality.

Answer 10

ok. i really think it is personality over looks.
i mean, sure, looks do matter.
they're what get you initially interested in a person.
but personality is what makes you like a person.
all you really need to do is look your best, and have self-confidence. that's really what guys like to see in a woman.
you don't have to be a perfect 10 to score a guy. just be yourself. let your inner beauty shine through.
confidence makes you seem beautiful, in my opinion.
so work it.
keep your head up and don't let anyone bring you down.
guys will notice the change.
they're not as dumb as you think. ;)