sexual partners...?

Question

how much should the number of sexual partners you have been with in the past matter in a relationship? should you tell the other person or is that something you would keep to yourself? (unless the # was completely ridiculous?)

Answer 1

Keep the number to yourself. Never EVER reveal it to a guy because they will hold it against you. Even if it is 2 or 3 guys. They hate it even though they ask. You do what you want and you don't have to account to anyone about what you do. It is your busness no one elses/.

Answer 2

WHY on earth would you ever feel compelled to share the # with someone. There is nothing positive or productive that could come out of that. Yes, they need to know you have a history and it is probably good to tell them, "I am not a virgin and have had more than one partner". If they ask how many, tell them "that's private and has no bearing on this relationship. btw, I don't want a number from you either - it just isn't necessary". It is always good to be checked for std's.

Answer 3

If it matters to your partner, tell him or her. If it doesn't matter perish the thought. Why make complication? The last thing I would want or need in this world would be a sexual partner. It would be nice to have someone to chat with, to amuse, a laugh once in awhile, even someone to help. But when you have had the truest love in the world, and you both are aware of life after death and you've had evidence of it, 100% of the capacity is gone; yesterdays love was real and today I wonder where I stand with him.

Answer 4

Most women, when letting their man know the number of partners, divide by three. Incidentally, most men multiply by three. (Yet their crappiness in bed belittles those lies!) Personally speaking, I don't think either should tell the exact number unless the relationship is secure. It usually inspires mistrust, jealousy or competition and relationships are hard enough without throwing that crap in.

It's like letting your new beau(belle) meet your ex for dinner, you just don't do that stuff unless you ate the paste as a kid.

Answer 5

I hear what you're asserting.yet i don't inevitably agree alongside with your concepts. i think of that every time you have intercourse with a various person that if the area fits and you prepare secure intercourse it particularly is nice. I recommend once you're leaping in mattress each evening with a various guy or woman and you do not particularly know this guy or woman, then there is yet another call you have earned. it particularly is a HO basic and straightforward. I additionally think of a similar applys to a guy. yet a guy could for my section be a pig. end of tale. via the years I truthfully have had my share of companions. And sure, I truthfully have merely picked up women in bars and long gone to mattress with them, however the area you %. up human beings additionally performs a factor. human beings tend to flow to particular bars and or golf equipment. If the club is a dive or drugs or some thing to this nature then i wouldn't in any respect leap into the sack with a woman from a place like this. yet a nicer place, i could maximum probable not have a undertaking with it.

Answer 6

OK...in this day and age, I want to know number of people, names...you can NEVER be too careful! I respect myself and my body too much to puposely take the chance of catching a disease that could have easily been prevented had I just known my boyfriend had slept with a certain person who is known to sleep with anything six months before hooking up with me. And I'd be WAY more pissed to find out a year down the road that he lied about being with her and I caught some STD! Honesty is always the best policy in my book.

Answer 7

I believe that the past is the past but if your current partner is interested in the number of people you have slept with and you don't feel comfortable being honest just tell him/her what they want to hear! To make light of the situation you should suggest that requardless to what the #'s say you should both get tested just to be sure since it only take one person to catch an STD! I do not think #'s from the past should matter all that much thouhgh!

Answer 8

If you love your partner it should not matter. My ex boyfriend was with a lot of partners, it freaked me out for a little bit but then I got over it. My feelings were that it is his past and its what made him the way he is.

If you have been with a lot of people and you feel more comfortable keeping that information to yourself, do not tell him/her ever or until your in a comfortable relationship.

Answer 9

It factors in to the inevitable thoughts that will naturally cross a persons mind concerning whether or not their partner will cheat and if a person should allow themselves to fall in love. I prefer honesty still. To lie would make any ill thoughts or judgments seem authentic when the truth is surely found out.

Answer 10

It's no one's business but your own. What is your partner's business is whether you've been tested for or ever had a disease. Don't volunteer the number even if asked. No matter how much someone claims to want to know, they really don't. Your sexual history is your own business, even if it's nonexistent.