we don't really talk that much but they invited my family to there daughter's b'day party @ a skating rink i spent the last 30 dollars i had on her for her b'day the whole time we was there they ignored my children and me then here recently both of my children just had b'days they didn't call,send a card or even get my children a present - i know it's my family but i just think what they did was wrong and my sister in law is due to have her 2nd child in sept.and she had a baby shower just a few weeks ago and didn't even invite me to the shower i fig. they call me to let me know when they have this baby what do u think about this situation
2007-08-31 17:39:49 · 7 answers · asked by iluvfrogs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
p.s. u can't talk to them about anything b/c they could care less of what u got to say- and they don't care what they say or do to people
2007-08-31 17:59:26 · update #1
my brother is a controlling person and she agrees with everything he says
2007-08-31 18:03:13 · update #2
Brothers/sister-in-laws SUCK! LOL....I have such a terrible time with my brother and his wife - I think you should do what everyone keeps telling me to do - just ignore them and don't let them bother you. The only person that has the power to let this affect you, is YOU - I know its easier said then done, trust me I KNOW!
It would take about three pages of typing to explain all of what mine have done to me.....so I won't even begin.....just know that it is THEM that has the problem and you are fine.
Its hard to turn off the caring part of yourself though - especially when it seems like they don't give a rats a&& about you and your feelings - but unfortunately, its the only way - to get over the hurt and even anger you may be feeling. I've tried talking til I was blue in the face and it became clear that nothing I did or said was going to make a differnce. They just keep telling me that I am the one with the problem - so be it.....Good luck, I know what you're going through......
(((((Hugs)))))
2007-08-31 17:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ WitchyWoman ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how you have "friends" and "acquaintances"? Family often falls in that category.
Their lack of attentiveness as hosts and lack reciprocity are more than enough indicator.
You don't allow these "family acquaintances" to rope you into anything, or shake you down for anything. You only deal with them when YOU want to. When they call, they usually want something.
If your kids don't rate, their kids don't rate. So don't put yourself to any trouble or expense on their behalf.
Next time they call, you say you are sorry but you already have plans that you just can't get out of.
Listen... at some point we have to evaluate all the relationships in our life. You sit back and say "What does this person bring to the table?" Are they a mooch? do they try to drag you into some drama? Do they have wisdom and insight? Do they make you laugh? You know where to spend your time based on that... and it will make your life happier.
2007-08-31 18:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you close to your brother?I would all my brother and explain your feelings and you are justified in feeling that way.maybe since you are family they felt they had to entertain the other GUESTS ...but it is still not right.
Explain you were hurt by no invitation for babyshower..
maybe they felt since they just invited you to bday party they wouldnt bug you for more gifts.Not sure there has to be something behind the reason they didnt...only way to know the truth is to ask!they cant read your mind
good luck
2007-08-31 17:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by hugsandhissyfits 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you have words with her regarding another matter? a confrontation with your brother maybe? i wonder why else would your sis-in-law act this way towards you. and your brother what's his trip treating you like a second rate citizen. your his sister for crying out loud.
i think you should talk to your brother and ask him right out what's going on with the snub? then maybe go to your parents and see if they have some insight or do they receive the same treatment from your sis-in-law?
family can be a real pain in the neck sometimes. i have a sis-in-law who expects me to go to all her functions and stay throughout, and she comes only to some of my functions, eats and leaves. i just ignore it and deal with her whenever i have to. if i were to dwell and wonder why she is the way she i would be miserable.
sounds like your feelings were hurt for the baby shower snub, you have nothing to lose if you ask "why".
be the better person and just go on being the sister that you are. if they continue with their childish behavior then it's their loss your gain. think of all the money you'll save in gifts.
be well,PEACE
2007-08-31 17:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by shygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no thought! Are you grimy and unkept at church? Do you embarress them for some reason? attempt to have your loved ones stay faraway from them for the duration of church to any extent further. then you isn't embarressed or injury by way of their strikes, and that they yours. tell your mum to objective putting a supply as much as u all's babysitting for awhile. Your sis will ask your self what's up, and then u can convey your feeelings.
2016-10-03 11:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your kids enjoy being around them, then don't let your feelings get in the way.but up front and tell them how you honestly feel. If not, then I say don't waste your time and money girl
2007-08-31 17:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be better than them stay sweet and you will be blessed and so will your children......and it dont mean they will change but you will grow from it
2007-08-31 17:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋