O so lets start off with a little background. I'm a 13 year old girl and I only live with my dad because my parents split up when I was 1 me and my dad have a nice bond, but I only sometimes really tell him how I'm feeling. Any way he met this girl and they were video chatting because she lives in the philipines after 2 weeks we both met her and her little 2 year old for 2 weeks and now heres the thing in ike 8 months they are getting married so now for the first time I'm going to have a mother and a sister, but there is more the girl is pregnatso I'm acually gonna have two sibblings and my whole life is going to change and I know my dad and gerda have differnet parenting styles so its going to be a big change. And my friends aren't really making a deal about it.
2007-08-31 17:33:28 · 4 answers · asked by me 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can see where you would be upset and worried about it all. The whole dynamic is changing radically, and it could easily effect your social life and everything else.
You need to sit down with your dad and discuss things at length so he can clarify things and allay your fears.
You need your own room (get him to put a keyed lock on the door so you can keep the little kids out). You have a social life of your own and plenty of extracurricular activities... if you don't, tell him you really want to be in the ____ and the ___ clubs at school. Tell him you don't have any interest in babysitting.
You know the joint is going to be noisy and the brats are going to be into everything. You may very well have to spend your afternoons doing your homework at a friend's house. There are various ways to adapt.
The flip side of this is that you might get to like the little buggers and actually cash in on the babysitting requirement.
Where is your mom in all this? Do you ever get to visit her? If it does get too much, you can see if you can move in with her now that you are "becoming a young woman" and need coaching with your own mom.
2007-08-31 19:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a pretty hard situation, I would say it was a big deal, definately. Especially if my to-be-stepmom was from a completely different part of the world (assuming you don't live near the Phillipeans). But take your new siblings as a blessing, it's great that you'll have brothers/sisters for the first time. Of course, I can also see how that can be hard, since now your family is going to be more than twice it's size and the attention will be on the little ones. But I'm sure you'll learn to love them all. Good luck, I really hope everything turns out all right!
2007-09-01 00:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a pretty hard stituation. I dont know what to say to help you, but good luck. Im sure everything will work out. Just keep an open mind the whole time, and you will find it easier then you think.
2007-09-01 01:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by Baby is finally here!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how that could possibly not be a big deal. I hope you have told your father how you feel...this is not one of the times you shouldn't open up!. This is going to effect the rest of your life. I really hope you become one big happy family. Good luck.
2007-09-01 01:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by weatheredmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋