my mom talks to me just fine about my day & stuff. but 4 some reason, whatever advice she gives me or speeches she tells me, i always wantto think the opposite and not listen to her. i am an amazing student & the shy & smart girl, i knnow its bad to feel this way, but i cant stop it. Also when she talks to me, since i m the 11st child, she really doesn't know what to say. so she kinda talks to me like she was talking to a kid, but trust me, i m not anymore. for example, when i should have first started to wear a bra, she told me that it was "that time" and baby & slow talked to me. i didnt 4 a while bcuz i felt like i shouldnt bcuz she said i could. & idk y! Also, she always asks me my opinion on boys, whoi like, if i like that movie star, and tells me stories about her boyfriends. i feel like kinda shes pressuring me 2 date, so i actually am not, even though my friends are. Waht should i do about this feeling? did u have it when u were a teen?
2007-08-31 17:06:29 · 20 answers · asked by advice giver & needer! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are normal. You are growing up and getting a mind of your own--but, always remember---your mom loves you and you seem like her good friend---dont be too harsh on your mother. She might want you to date because she doesnt want you to be left out--she would like a guy to treat you special. Let her talk about her boyfriends---this made your Mom feel wanted and made her feel good when the boys noticed her.
Try to be patient with your mother---just say, "Mom, I know you love me more than anything--and I love you. Just give me some space right now". Include your Mom in your world more---talk to her more and trust her to know a little more about you---that would make her very happy.
2007-08-31 17:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, this isn't a weird mother/daughter relationship. She isn't pressuring you to date, she's making sure you know about love and the many things that can happen to you - she doesn't want yo uto get hurt. She wants you to identify the difference between infatuation and love. It's okay to think the opposite of what your mom thinks, because she's not right all the time. But next time, try this: ask her and yourself the sense in what she says. Does it seem reasonable? Is it right? Is it believable? Could yo usimply add more to it? And pretty much every teen goes through this - its not a sign of rebellion, its natural. You want to explore different opinions, and its all part of growing up, but yo uhave to be careful to observe what's right and what's wrong.
Sorry for the long answer =)
2007-08-31 17:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really good girl and like you are growing up great. You only sound to be about 13-15 yrs old and those are really hard ages for young girls and sometimes parents dont always know exactly how to deal with it either. She probably just wants you to be happy and to experience your childhood. Maybe there were things that she missed out on when she was your age and wants you to know that you don't have to too. Follow your gut and do what you want to do as long as you are making a good decision for yourself. Take her advice with "okay"s and "uh huh"s and just smile. Let her know that you are at least listening. All kids want to rebel but as long as you're not hurting anyone or yourself, then don't worry about it! It's normal!
2007-08-31 17:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by ღ♥ Katie ♥ღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look up the word, rebellion. It is natural to feel this way.
Hey give your mom a break. She didn't go to a university to get her license in motherhood.
She sounds like she is trying to keep the communication lines open with her daughter so that is her daughter needed to talk to her mom about boys, she could, before she got into trouble.
Honey, be so thankful you have a mom that cares and is there for you.
remember, ya have to take a test to drive a car, but there is no requirements to be a mom, just go off the instincts God gave us!!
Good luck
2007-08-31 17:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not sure how to connect with you and your changing personality as a teenager. Doing or thinking of doing just the opposite of what she says is totally normal as a teenager. You want to be able to make your own mistakes and learn from them. Give her time she is afraid of losing you and the connection that she feels for you. It is all just a period of adjustment that's all. You 2 will make it through this. She obviously loves you very much but is unsure how to treat you just now. Just tell you that even though you are growing up you are still her baby you are just a maturing young lady now.
2007-08-31 17:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That whole thing sort of baffled me until you said that you were a teen. Of course you want to do the opposite of everything your mom tells you to do, every teen does. But it sounds like what you're interpreting as her trying to pressure you into things, is actually her trying to get closer to you. Having teenage kids is scary, especially today. She probably just wants to establish a good relationship with you, one where you know you can talk to her about anything. Wanting to know what's going on in your life does not make her pushy, it makes her your mother
2007-08-31 17:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by lehua 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be glad she's talking to you and trying to be a part of your life. Do you want to turn out like... let's say, Brittany Spears? It's obvious her mother never gave her the time of day and no one smacked her on the can when she needed it.
Consider yourself blessed and lucky! Do her a favor and show her some respect. She just wants to let you know she cares... is that a crime? Only in America.
2007-08-31 17:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by Yulik MahBaht 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thiknk most of us go through that. I spent years trying to be as contrary towards my mother as possible. I think it's wanting to be your own person and not a replica of your mom. If you feel like your mom is dummy-ing up conversations with you, just tell her that you feel she's talking down to you. And open up to her about things that don't matter if you don't want to talk about things that do. Any conversation is better than none from her standpoint.
2007-08-31 17:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! Of course I am living your life! ( except I am the 3rd out of 3). I always do the opposite my mom tells me to do, because she annoys me. I hate it when my mom asks me about boys and TV stars! I know she's just trying to have a conversation, but it annoys me, I know it will go away, the same thing will happen to you. This is completely normal and many teenagers go through this don't worry! good luck just try to obey your mom ( even though it's hard)
2007-08-31 17:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by celinuchis90 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To answer your question, yes I probably did sometimes, but it seems to me you know it's not the way it should be. Give her a break, she just really wants to be a part of her daughters life. She sees you growing up and it is very hard to let go of your babies.
Oh, by the way - "amazing student" - proof read your work!
LOL! (just a very small silly joke)
God bless
2007-08-31 17:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by fishergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋