questions about cutting?

Question

why do SO many people think that people cut them selves for attention. most of the time, its not for atention at all! and they dont even really want anybody to see the cuts/scars, but if somebody does see them, they can't lie, so they have to tell them. and not just the EMO people cut the selves. step out of the labels people please. so many other types of people cut them selves too and theres always a reason behind it. also, why do a lot of people think that if somebody cuts them self they are insane and they immediately need phsyciatric help? all they really need is ONE person to talk to and help them sort out whats going on. Im really just wondering why people are so shallow to say people "emo" people cut themselves for attention andthey are crazy. now i know all of you dont feel this way so dont come on here hating on me, all im doing is asking ok?

boo, the first person who answerd, u suck.

Answer 1

It is for attention. It's so others will discover it, then you'll have to tell them about it, and then you'll have what you want in the first place...someone to talk too. Of course, that someone will be a psychiatrist since you are having a mental issue and haven't yet learned to simply ask someone to listen to you.

Answer 2

Often the person is in so much pain from relationships, difficulties in school, feeling unable to cope with stress, that real physical pain is an outlet to show control over the body and to stop the numbness of isolation. Psychiatrists are trained to help people gain insight about their difficulties--not to judge one as being insane. Stereotypes of psychiatrists in movies, on tv, and in jokes are so wrong. Most psychiatrists have gone through years of medical school and medical residency to help people through their difficulties so that they can find better alternatives to cutting, suicide, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, etc. They are very good listeners, and if they are good, they will stay away from giving "advice" , but may have the person look at his or her behavior and perceptions differently. If the person does not need medication to help with the problem (such as prescription anti-depressants, anti-anxiety medicines or other drugs to help with symptoms along with having therapy) a good psychologist or trained counselor can be very helpful. Psychologists differ from psychiatrists in that they can't prescribe medicines because they do not have a medical degree. The important thing is to get help. You are not alone in your feelings and behaviors. We all need someone to talk to and to share our problems. Don't keep all that pain inside, it will keep you from enjoying living. People really do care--they sometimes don't realize what you're going through. I know, because my daughters cut for a while when they were in junior high. They did a great job of hiding their feelings, so I thought they were doing fine. I was so saddened when I saw the scars which were hidden by bracelets and wrist bands. They each saw counselors to help understand what they were going through. The counselor helped by listening, understanding, and maintaining strict confidentiality --even to us, their parents. I don't know what they said to each other, but I do know that it helped tremendously, and they both stopped the cutting and began to feel more able to feel confident and important. No way should you fear being hated for asking such important questions. I hope that your question will be helpful to others who may have similar problems. And no, you are not "crazy"!

Answer 3

Really, they are cutting themselves for attention. It's just they don't know who from, or how to get it. It is a desperate act. At the time it's supposed to get attention, but afterwards they cover it up because it's not normal and they're embarrassed or insecure about it. It's a call for help that they can't say out loud yet.

Yes there are lots of reasons that lead to the cutting, but the cutting itself is a symbolic attempt to punish themselves and call attention to the problem.

Answer 4

Well, I would cut for attention. I wanted people to see my scars (and secretly, most of us do).

I wanted them to see so that people would have a reason to get close to me, and I wanted to be held/comforted/talked to. I just wanted the safety of knoing that there was a reason. I couldn't have asked for comfort if I had no reason. I'm not that kind of person, I'm introverted. I'm not emo, either.

Therapy helped me understand my needs, stemming from sexual abuse. I needed to feel comforted, but I had to know it wasn't for a sexual reason, so I created a reason for myself. I subtley tried to make my cuts obvious, so that people would ask, and I'd play the bait. Eventually I'd let them in and get that comfort and close-conatct I so very much desired.

Now I am learning to reach out and seek the comfort, and its easier with girls than guys. SOme of my guy friends have noticed my need, and so they will occasionally volunteer a very much needed hug, or arm around th eshoulder.

Touch is very important, and if we don't make contact physically with other humans, then we can get very depressed.

Answer 5

I'm no doctor by any means but from what I've seen about this sort of thing and this is just my opinion only so don't think I'm judging at all. Something had to happen for someone to abuse their body in that way in might be an ugly type of inner problem (I'm not talking about looks) and that's how the person cope's with it. My friend's daughter constantly gouges her skin and she doesn't realize she's doing it. Just remember whoever has got you down its not worth hurting yourself over. Hope you find happiness :)

Answer 6

The reason most kids cut themselves is that there has been something so terrible that they can't deal with it. If they could talk to someone and figure it out they wouldn't cut themselves. That is why they need to see a therapist to get them talking about what is bothering them. They need attention and that can come from their parents, friends or a therapist. Bottom-line, they need help and are afraid to ask for it.

Answer 7

neither...its approximately making the intellectual suffering leave..except you fairly desire to realise anybody and aren't asking this simply to place anybody down or make amusing of anybody then do not even trouble...it has not anything to do with "having the heart" or being scared to get aid...except you will have ever had melancholy you'll on no account realize what it seems like..reducing is improper however its a truth...and for humans who reduce its a approach to get them again into truth..to give up the harm, the dislike, the tears, the yelling, and the whole lot else that sucks in our lives wish you realise and take time to hear whomever year asking this approximately?

Answer 8

i know what u mean...i'm not considered "emo" by anyone...i'm smart, pretty, have good friends...but i have cut myself...i've tried to slit my wrists once...people ask me about it, but i just lie and say i hurt myself at work or something....i've cut myself because it seemed like i needed to do something to feel more physical hurt than the hurt going on inside my heart...

Answer 9

Because it's an action that depressed, sucidal people do.
It's wrong to cut yourself, deliberately. By the way, you're rambling. But it's ok, tonight.

Answer 10

people who cut themselves have issues that needs attention... they have insecurities.. an identity crisis... and they should be conforted and not shun away... they lack attention specially from their parents... and i think that these people needs professional help...