I'm turning 20 in less than a month and honestly I am freaking out. I still feel like I'm 16; like there are still so many things I haven't done. Its such a pointless age. I'm no longer a 'teen', I'm going to be in my.... 20s! Feeling depressed.
2007-08-31 17:03:22 · 15 answers · asked by loungequeen21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
definitely did not want to turn 20. it just felt like a huge step i did not want to take. but after being 20 for 6 months im okay with it and embrace it. at least we're not associated with 13 year olds anymore since we are no longer teenagers, think about that
2007-08-31 17:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Are you a girl? I can't tell for sure by your Yahoo name. I'm a guy and I felt that way too when I turned 21. At 20, I could still think of myself as a teen.
I think girls feel more of a loss at this first stage of "loss of youth" than boys do. It's a transition time and you're entering a new life stage. It can be a wonderful time of starting new things; jobs, schools, boys/men, etc, but there is a sense of loss of youth. You will get over this soon, just be patient with yourself.
If you haven't done it yet, now is the time to set life goals for yourself and create action plans for achieving these goals. This will help you feel better and you need to do it anyway.
You will never have anything in life unless you set goals and action plans to have the kind of life you want to have. Each 10 years from now on is a mile post along the way, where you will feel yourself entering a new lifestage and will evaluate how well you are doing at achieving your goals.
The standard life goal for your next 10 years is to establish a permanent romantic relationship (marriage) and to establish a career that will give you and your partner a financial base of support for home and children.
The standard life goal for the years 30 to 40 are advancement in career and, with your partner, raising your children, while at the same time, keeping your love relationship with your partner strong. There are books that will tell you much more about life stages.
I didn't feel like I was an adult when I was 20 y/o. I didn't realise that maturing emotionally is a gradual, life long process. I can empathize with your feelling of "there are so many things you haven't done".
You will never get to do them all. Part of your task now is to decide what things are priorties for you so that you can do what is most important to you.
These are just very broad brush strokes regarding your future life, but I hope, enough for you to get the picture. Your life is what you make of it, but, you can do it. My best wishes for your future.
2007-08-31 17:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly how you feel!! I was actually very depressed on my 20th b-day. It's the "limbo" year--you are not going out to bars and partying, but a lot of stuff you did as a teenager may seem silly now.
I am now 25, and there are still a lot of things I have not done that when I was younger I would have assumed I would have by now, like marriage, etc, but that is my decision to not get married yet and to get my master's degree.
Don't freak out, you have a lot of time to accomplish what you want. Just sit down and evaluate what you want to do with your life, make sure you are headed in the right direction...and enjoy! You are still young, go out and have some fun! :) Happy early b-day!
2007-08-31 17:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa L 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm already 26 and it feels great!
You can still feel like a teenager though your in your 20s plus the bonus that you'll gonna savor the privileges of being an adult.
2007-08-31 17:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
For me I'm 25 but it looks like 18 and I think there are times that we still acting an immature and I think we will did not to face it about the serious of our lives like having a relationship with a partner,to talked about sex and that's why we will to be an out of place to talking with the group people and that's why we will having some problems of our lives like on how to communicate with the other people and for me I'll tried to communicate with my loved ones and then I was never think about my problem and I think we should to pray with our loved ones to having a good relationships with them
2007-08-31 17:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Clarisse 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wanted to turn 20. I was just disappointed I wasn't 21 yet, and couldn't get alcohol by myself!! I'm 21 and a half now and I feel great!
2007-08-31 17:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You'll be fine. I'm more than twice the age I feel. Experience comes with age and so do many great freedoms. Aging is fun and every age has its fun times. It's what you make of it. Happy Birthday!
2007-08-31 17:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Thinkaboutit 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i know how u feel!.. well im not 20 but i just turned 19 and i feel so old! bc ill be in my 20's soon.. i know exactly what u mean though.. i wish i was 16 again!
2007-08-31 17:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by *Babycakes* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 34 and still feel 16...You will always feel young inside.
2007-08-31 17:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are a Young Adult.
What until you turn 45, aches, pains, kids, college bills, house and cars to pay for and maintain........plus work.
Enjoy your youth!
2007-08-31 17:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by Captain Tomak 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋