I have been going out on and off with this guy tony for about 2 years. When he lived here in the same city, he didn't like it when i wanted to hang out with other people, even girls. So, i spend almost every day with him. Now, for about a month so far, he is at Oklahoma University having the time of his life meeting people and joined a fraternity, as he says. I think he is a hypocrite for not letting me have fun then, and now HE is having all the fun, leaving me with no friends here anymore. Now, is it bad that when i talk to him over the phone i like to manipulate him and tell him that it's not right if he hangs out with people in college? I do it because i think he deserves it because i got treated badly by him. While he goes out and parties, i stay home because he doesnt like the ppl i hang out with. I know i should get over it and move on, but i just can't stop thinking about the fact that i hope he gets treated like crap the same way!
2007-08-31 16:55:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Julie,
Your mad and hurt. That's how it is so own it. Be ok with it. You feel hurt and like a victim by how he treated you. To feel better you got angry and you lashed out.
The important part is right now you must decide to never ever let anyone be in charge of you again. No ones opinion can ever be more important than your own.
Rather than worry about if he gets treated like crap. Take all that fire your feeling and make a change in your heart that YOU will never be treated badly again.
You are in control of how you feel and what happens to you. Take all this energy and instead of giving it to him by worrying about him. Go out and have as much fun as you can. YOU know you need to. Life is not about worrying about the jerks we have dated it is about celebrating all the great things in ourselves. Remember its important that he knows your right its only important that you know your right.
Lots of love and start Living
2007-08-31 17:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by mavrachangawoke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have ya ever heard the expression, you made your bed now lie in it.
Well I wouldn't be that harsh, but you have a funky relationship where he is totally in control.
Is that what you want, a man to tell you when and where you can go, etc.
You just might want to re think this relationship.
I can almost predict that he will be fooling around while away at school..
Maybe a trial separation from your boyfriend / girlfriend relationship.
Ya never know whats just around the corner for you, maybe a man that will treat you with respect and kindness, like its suppose to be.
Good Luck
2007-09-01 00:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only causes bad feelings to wish people ill will, but you are right to want to move on. You should have a new life for yourself, meeting new people. If your friends have good values, they will not end up to be like Tony. He was only controlling you while he was with you. Most people know someone like him. They rob you of pleasant times and in the end you are alone. It's not too late to contact some good and faithful friends or to make new ones. Take care of your own well being.
2007-09-01 00:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, i lost alot of friends over someone too, it sucks, but in reality it is our faults for letting control us to the point where we dont have friends anymore. I know it is hard, but try to be the better person and let him do what he wants, tell him what he did to you and how he hurt you and then tell him you are going to let him do what he wants because you care about him and from now on he needs to learn to do the same, otherwise break it off, you seriously dont need that crap
2007-09-01 00:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already lost 2 years of life with a lot of possibilities.
Why wast your valuable time on revenge.
Revenge itself is not a good feeling.
Be smart! Get out there, enjoy your true beautiful self.
Catch all wonderful new life possibilities,
this time, no one will get in your way.
Learn from your experience:
No need to give up yourself for any one.
Then you still come out as a winner.
A true winner for your own life.
2007-09-01 00:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by abooda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok 1st...you definately don't need to get over thhis.....he seems to controlling. Don't you want to have a little freedom in your life? Didn't you have more fun when you could hang out with the people you care about? Thats not fair to you and you deserve better
2007-09-01 00:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waist anymore of your time or cell phone minutes. Get out and have fun! You cant get back those two years he made you feel miserable HOWEVER you can get yourself back now and reconnect with your friends. Think of yourself and GO have some FUN! :)
2007-09-01 00:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by Macanut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you stoop to his level that makes you just as bad as him. It takes bigger people to make a difference in society, what kind of example are you setting for the next person.
Cut your loses and move on. A jealous relationship doesn't work.
2007-09-01 00:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ozzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wasting your energy on something you can't even do. You can't manipulate how other people will treat him, especially when you are not even there. (even if you were there, it's nearly impossible)
Decide for yourself, you will do what you think it is right for you. Obviously, he has one set of rules for himself and quite another one for you. Is this right by you?
Sound as if you already know what's right for you. Do it!
2007-09-01 00:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree if he treats u like that treat him the same way have fun and don't let him tell u what 2 do he's not ur father
2007-09-01 00:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by bainette s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋