My dad is so harsh behind my boyfriend's back. From making Asian accents (yes, he is Asian) to making fun of everything he said after we broke up for the first time (before we got back together.) It's pretty much everything about him he jokes about. My boyfriend doesn't know about this, but I myself take everything my dad says and does quite offensively. It's getting on my nerves and I really want him to stop now. Can I get him to stop his foolishness and if so, how?
2007-08-31 16:32:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't matter who you date, your dad will make fun of him. It's how dad's are with their baby girls.
2007-08-31 16:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him to stop, that you don't appreciate it. Don't forget though that it is likely that he's lashing out because this guy hurt his little girl. So try to be a bit patient with dad while you explain it to him. If after you've had that talk he still does it, then your dad is a racist, or just doesn't like your boyfriend.
2007-09-01 00:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you have your hands full. Sounds like your dad loves you and is going to think that no one is good enough for you. AND that is fine. Just mean he loves you. BUT I know that you can only handle so much, so maybe if you sat down with him and told him that you loved him but he is diving you crazy, he would slow down a little. Remember you are his little girl and wants to see you happy
2007-08-31 23:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by soldit4them 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same experience with my dad...he had these nicknames for guys who courted me...i think he doesn't really mean to be mean...but rather...its his defense mechanism kicking in...he can't accept the fact that his baby girl is all grown up and in a relationship...and no guy will ever be good enough for his little girl...but if you really find it offensive...tell him that when he says bad things about your bf...he is hurting you as well...tell him that you value his approval so much and that you need him to support you in your relationship...your dad loves you so much...im sure he will give in...
2007-08-31 23:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by geisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and have a talk with him...Tell him you do not appreciate the bad things he says and as a grown up, you expect more out of him..He will be shocked...But if your grown up enough to have a relationship, you are old enough to have an adult conversation with your dad.....
2007-08-31 23:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to cut it out. My friend would talk crap about my boyfriend and I told her to cut it out and she got p!ssed but your dad should understand. It is unfair of him.
2007-08-31 23:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋