How do I get my boyfriend of 8 years to move in with me and commit?

Question

Ok so my boyfriend and I have been dating since 6th grade and he has finished college and I will be starting college soon. He wants to go into the Police Academy in Alabama were I live but he lives in Florida. When we talk about moving out together we get so excited, but one thing seems to get in the way... his mother. He seems to think he needs to stay at home and take care of his parents but its his mom who won't let him go. Lately when I ask him if he still plans on moving in with me his answer is always I dont know or we will see. I don't know how to tell him that I really do love him and I know he cares for me alot. He has already has my engagment ring and wedding ring that was his sisters . I need to know what to do. How do I make him understand that by him telling me that he will move in with me one day and the next day he is not sure he is confusing me. Some one please help me????

Thank you
diehard052003

Answer 1

Boy, you have a little bit of a problem.
If he's that stuck on his mother, you might never get him to commit. ....I would push him to make a commitment by a certain date, whether it be a week or a year.
It'll be hard but you should stick to your guns. If he can't commit to you within the year (after 8 years), leave him and find a guy that will. I know that leaves you 8 years late but it's better than being 12 years late.

Answer 2

You should tell him exactly what you expressed in your question. But you should also be careful about making more serious commitments so young. I'm sure this is not what you want to hear, in light of the fact that you're so in love and have been together so long. But BELIEVE me, you will not be the same person when you get out on your own. Moving out and going to college is a huge transition. You really need to think about if maybe it's NOT such a bad thing that you two don't move in together. Then you get into shared bills, leases, etc.
Why don't you take this time to really reflect?