My neighbors' husband passed away 2 nights ago. We weren't friends, but we would speak occasionally. Should I send something or say something. Very sad. He was only 55.
2007-08-31 15:44:42 · 12 answers · asked by chickem 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Although you werent close friends I would say yes. It is a difficult situation to go through and im sure it would be very appreciated and make her feel a little better knowing someone took the time to say sorry for your loss. I would recommend sending something over there first and when the time comes and you see her and she says something to you , you can state that you are sorry for her loss. You may also want to possibly make something for her , like a dinner. Do they have kids? Make a huge pan of lasagna or other type comfort food in a throw away pan. Nice of ya to think about your neighbor, its the neighborly thing to do :)
2007-08-31 15:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Caring neighbors are a rare blessing these days - good for you. Little gestures can mean the world in tough times, especially from unexpected sources. She will feel comforted to know that the people around her care, even if she doesn't show it.
Make a casserole or other dish which requires you to leave a dish with her, and knock on the door. Don't intrude unless she seems eager for company - take your cues from her. Do say "I heard about Fred; I'm so sorry, he was such a nice man (if he was - otherwise skip this part - she doesn't want to be lied to). I can't imagine what you must be going through. Please don't hesitate to call (give her your number if she doesn't have it) or stop by if you need anything, or just want some company. Please enjoy this casserole; I know you have enough to be doing without having to worry about cooking."
The dish will provide a perfect excuse for her to stop by, or for you to drop in and check on her. Reiterate your availability. If you notice anything amiss as time goes on, such as newspapers piling up or the yard becoming unkempt. These may be signs that she is not handling the bereavement well.
2007-08-31 16:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by PurrfectPeach13232 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would send a nice card (like there's a rude sympathy card somewhere out there...lol) and some flowers. Or if they're having a wake at the home of the deceased send over a covered dish of food and a card....or all 3 would be nice. You could offer to do something for them while they're going through the mourning process like mow their lawn, or water it....at times like these many people don't even want to think about the mundane chores that have to be done.
2007-08-31 18:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by ndn_ronhoward 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should acknowledge his death, yes, but I would wait 2 or 3 more days. Send flowers and a card letting your neighbor know that if she needs anything you're available to help.
2007-08-31 15:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by DC Lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to be good friends to be neighborly. By all means tell her you are sorry for her loss and it would also be very nice of you to send over some food. Sending food is not a must but a wonderful gesture.
2007-09-01 03:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by pj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes at least send a card or go all out and take food over there yourself, the purpose is to ease the pain if only for a second
2007-08-31 15:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by LoVeLoVeLoVe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should certainly say something to this poor woman. It would be very awkward if you were to wait for her to bring up the subject. Hold your hand out and say "I'm so sorry. I'll miss him very much. Please let me know if there's anything I can help you with." If you're a gentleman or considerably younger than she, you might add "I can change a light bulb or carry heavy stuff for you; please ask." That last part is optional though.
2007-08-31 17:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be nice to acknowledge his passing. Perhaps a small flower arrangement to the house with a card expressing your regrets.
2007-08-31 18:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd take a tray of baking over with a card. You don't have to say much, but ask if there's anything you can do. That's so sad... my husband is 56...
2007-09-01 11:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should. I think if you sent over some food, flowers, and/or a plant for comfort, that will be fine. It is the polite thing to do.
2007-08-31 15:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋