my boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 months and when we make out sometimes i want to take it a little farther, but not sex. sometimes he'll put his hands up the back of my shirt and rub my back and like touch my hair or whatever. i want to touch him "down there" (idk what to call it w/o getting the ques. deleted). like through his pants but i'm worried he might think im weird or something. are there any guys out there who would find it strange or offensive? we've talked about sex before and i know hes not waiting until hes married or anything like that. so how exactly should i go about doing this to turn him on w/o looking stupid?
2007-08-31 15:42:26 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we're 16 btw.
2007-08-31 15:42:39 · update #1
holy crap this is a lot of answers...some more appreciated than others, lol. but thanks everyone!!
2007-08-31 15:55:03 · update #2
Don't ask him about it
Just randomly do it but go slow about it.
Run your hand down his body until you get to it and then do your thing.
If you run your hand down slow he will get the idea and have more than enough time to stop you, if he doesn't want you to do that.
And most guys can do that without you seeming stupid. Personally I would continue to kiss you and maybe hold your hand, or pull your hand up and kiss your hand just to get it away from the area and let you know at the same time that everything is okay.
So just approach slow and I think everything will work out.
2007-08-31 15:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by 45 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't feel at all like you owe it to him or have to do anything. I know when I was sixteen I felt a lot of the time he'd like me more if I'd willingly take things further and further and further.
Anyway.... if you do want to go for it, try just rubbing or grabbing the inside of his thigh a little bit while you guys are sort of in the moment. Just see how he reacts to you being in that area, and eventually things will just happen naturally without you having to put a whole lot of thought into it.
2007-08-31 15:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok chick i am not a guy but i am very experienced in that subject. If you wanna turn him on do it in a forward way. get int o a game of 20 questions and ask what his biggest turn on spot is. or if you start making out n get hot n heavy push him back smile and slowly run your finger from his chest to his zipper and make like a little circle with your nail. Watch his expression is he inhales deeply he likes but if he looks like a deer in the headlights he may not have ne experience. If it don't work let me know
2007-08-31 15:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by bainette s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start putting your hand down there. He'll KNOW that's what you're thinking about doing. Chances are, you're just curious to see and touch it all for now. You could give him a hand job. If he's bothered with any of it, read his face and actions...he'll probably let you know. If he starts thinking and wanting sex though, just tell him 'no' and settle for some "petting."
2007-08-31 15:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you are far too young to have sex...you said you don't want to have sex but touching him there is like asking for it...so if you're not ready for sex then don't touch him there...once a guy is pretty much aroused...its hard for him to stop and you will end up doing it all the way...and if you cant be stopped from doing it...make sure you use protection to prevent any unwanted pregnancy...but i'd really stick to saying wait until you're both older and more responsible...
2007-08-31 15:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you & your bf need to talk about things like that. i would take things slow though cause you don't wanna rush into anything. you guys are only 16 so you have plenty of time. no reason to go into everything right away so yeah just take things at a good pace & make sure you're both okay with things before going to the next step.
2007-08-31 15:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you were to touch him "down there" through his pants, that he would like it very much. but it may lead to things going a little further than that. like his pants may end up unzipped, and you may find yourself a bit "closer" than you planned.
when do you do this? a good time is in the middle of a very long, deep kiss. I assume you do that.
2007-08-31 15:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by freespirit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being 16, you should be careful, I don't know your boyfriend, but if you touch him there, you might start something you can't stop, there is a chance he might want to keep going, so either be willing to do something you might not want to, or don't tease him like that it's not nice.
2007-08-31 15:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by Tommy H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you touch him down there...even with his pants on...you will excite him...and could CAUSE him to WANT TO GO FARTHER AS IN SEX...just be careful if you are not old enough to get on the pill...
2007-08-31 15:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by sweet 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. He won't think its strange at all... but if you touch it, even through clothing, you have to be prepared for the reaction you're going to get from "it" and he's going to want to take it farther, so if you're not ready for that, I suggest you don't even think about touching it there ...
:-)
2007-08-31 15:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by ykalex 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋