Need Thick headed Mom help!?

Question

First of my mom doesnt cook at all - we only go out to eat. We are an average wealth family and can't afford to eat out. Anyway whenever we try to get her to cook (which she can) she just gets angry and locks herself in the masterbed room and crys. Anybody know how I can get through to my mom to change the way she acts. I bring this us because she is currently acting this way and I can't stand to hear her cry.

*She can cook.

my dad works all day, and I can't cook water.

She cries because she thinks we gang up on her about it.

Answer 1

find a recipe you like and ask her if she could help you cook it. tell her you want to learn to cook and you will help her out in the kitchen . that you will help prepare it, cook it, serve it and help with the dishes. she may be feeling bad about herself on something totaly different then that and you could be helping her open up. start with just cooking and then slowly start talking about things in your life and hopefully she will start to talk to you too. ask her to search the net with you to find some new things to try or see if she has a recipe book that the two of you can plan meals out of. dont back out once she starts cooking more. you will learn to cook and later in life you will remember the time the two of you spent together.

Answer 2

I find that when you want someone to change, the easiest way is to change along with them - help them out by doing it as well.

You said you can't boil water? You could ask your mom to teach you to cook. Maybe if it's approached that way it would feel like less of an obligation. Also, once you do learn, you can ease her burden even more by cooking some meals on your own. In my home, I find that everything, from dinner to dishes to chores in general, is easier when my son and I work as a team to get it done. I dread walking into a dirty kitchen and having to lift a finger to get dinner on the table. But when we team up, it's enjoyable rather than agitating.

Answer 3

It sounds like your mom may be going threw menopause. Talk to your dad, bring that up to him. He may be able to get her to go see a doctor and get on hormones. Which will make her feel better. Or she may be depressed either way talk to your dad about it.
And cooking isn't hard. Just get a cook book and do what it says. Or go here, http://www.campbellkitchen.com/ Campbell's has a lot of recipes that are very easy to follow and do. And the first thing you need to know about cooking, don't cook everything on high. Use medium-low to medium heat. Unless you have to boil something then use medium-high.

Answer 4

You may want to start cooking (if your old enough) and when she sees you do it this may prompt her to slowly come into the kitchen and cook. She may need this little push to get her started.

While you both are cooking start making some inquiry of way she seem to fear cooking. I think this may help her, but keep in mind it may take awhile. I know you love your mom so its okay you can do it. If you are under age, can do some basic cooking, like coffee, toast, deserts etc...God bless

Answer 5

If suggesting that she cook triggers such an obviously negative emotional reaction from your mother, chances are there is a reason for it.

Don't ask her again.

Learn how to cook yourself. If you're on a budget, I'd suggest picking up 'A Man, A Can, A Plan' cookbook published by 'Men's Health'. Very easy and cost effective recipes.

Answer 6

Tell her you'd like to learn to cook, and ask her to teach you. It's something you really should learn anyway, and it might draw your mom out and make her interested in cooking again. Maybe she is depressed. Have you talked to your dad about her? Maybe he could get her some help.

Answer 7

tell you would like a home cooked meal with all of you eating together

Answer 8

she cant cook...
you all need to learn

Answer 9

wow, she needs some counseling quick!