Hello all. I have fallen in love with a wonderful woman. On many levels we are perfect together. I love her very much and im sure she definitely cares a lot about me. We have been together almost a year and have had some great times. We are currently living together. We are talking about a longterm future. We want the same things - nice house, kids, etc. However there are multiple clouds on the horizon - 1. She is 7 years younger than me (im 30). 2. She has a 3 year old daughter (who i get on well with) 3. Her previous relationship was abusive - we have great sex - but she finds physical intimacy difficult - i suppose we dont have sex as often as i would like 4. She is being sued in a civil case - long story short - she went drinking with some underagers, one of whom killed a man while drunk driving - im worried that she and if i marry her we will be liable for a lot of money etc making our future difficult. 5. Her ex bf is psycho - he is currently in prison for how he - continued..
2007-08-31 14:17:48 · 8 answers · asked by Pa J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is currently in prison for how he treated her. Im worried what he might do - he also has sex tapes involving gf which worries me aswell. Having said all this i love the woman and she is probably the best thing to have happened to me in a long time. Do people think i am mand or can this work out? Advice appreciated.
2007-08-31 14:19:07 · update #1
of course it can work if you both want it to and take the time (as often as possible) to keep falling in love (im very serious) ---- best wishes to you both ---- dont let events take control of your lives
2007-08-31 17:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is some story! Well, first of all, to answer your original question...it's nice to believe that love conquers all, but in the real world love is not always enough (we all know that but don't really want to admit it) because the truth is that love consists of many different things such as patience, loyalty, understanding, honesty, etc.
It is evident that your relationship w/ this woman will have many obstacles, but guess what - every relationship has those! Wouldn't it be a shame if you left her because of her problems, found someone else whom you didn't love as much but who didn't have all of these "issues" and then later ran into some problems that were 10 times worse! You would think "Idiot, what was the point of leaving my true love then?" So my advice is...stick with her, imagine how amazing it will be after all of those issues are finally resolved and she says "Wow, I can't believe you love me THAT much to have endured it all!" But if you truly decide to stay w/ her than don't sway from that decision, whatever you decide you need to stay with that plan - and also, no matter what that decision will be or what the outcome is - try your best to never regret it, because then it will all just be a waste.
2007-08-31 14:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Yul'ka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Women are normally more mature..or I guess I should say mature more quickly so the 23/30 thing should be ok. 2) The daughter is only 3 so she is young enough to adapt to you as part of her permanent scenery, as long as you can care for her as is she were your own 3) The intimacy issues can be worked through if you are comfortable enough with each other and she will trust you more and more over time. 4) Maybe wait to tie the knot until the civil suit is finished; in a lot of states, the spouse is held legally responsible for their spouse. 5) Ex's are normally an issue with any relationship these days, it all depends on how much you are willing to put on the line for her.
In short, yes love can conquer all if you both believe in it and are determined to keep it alive. Good luck.
2007-08-31 14:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by littleone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't what the age difference is if you love her you got to accept her for her an not what other people think. An for her past an what she's done shouldn't matter as long as you accept it. Don't worry what others think about you'll live life for you an whomever you choose to live it with. Life is to short for that!! An for her ex I wouldn't worry about that if he's in prison he'll be watched. But her being with underage people drinking she could be liable for that her being an adult an others minors. But I wouldn't worry to much!! Good Luck with everything an I hope things work out with you!!!
2007-08-31 14:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by becky c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a lovely thought but I'm afraid it doesn't conquer all. It can't prevent death or prevent hate, or stop wars, it can't stop abuse or neglect or so many terrible things in the world. Loving is well worth all the risks without any guarantees ... "life shouldn't be measured by the number of breaths we take, but the number of times our breath is taken away."
2016-05-18 02:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think thats its all about how much ur willing to commit for her and how much ur willing to sacrafice. if u want it really bad and maybe even help her in her troubles you guys will be in a better situation. try getting her through all of that fast and then once its cleared try movin away if she wants from all that bothers you guys try a fresh start. i think that if she loves u as much as you love her then you will conquer all. trust
2007-08-31 14:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by Just Wondering! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want it that bad, push hard for it, sounds like one hell of a hill to climb.
2007-08-31 14:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by jt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for her =-]
2007-08-31 14:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by insert nickname here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋