okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months and one of my good friends wont stop flirting with him and ill ask her if she likes him and she claims she doesnt.but then when im not around i hear my best friends telling me she is all over him when im not around. i really want our relationship to last but i dont want him to start falling for her.
help!? wat do i do? and how do i tell her to back off.
2007-08-31 13:52:23 · 15 answers · asked by abcd1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend ill fall for if he falls for her guys are jerks sometimes. She is not your good friend if thats what shes doing to you though. What I would do is talk to her, tell her exactly what is the problem, and that you want her to stop, and that if she doesn't then it will put a hinder in your friendship. If your boyfriend, lets her be all over him... is he really a guy that you want?
2007-08-31 13:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ally... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's a good friend she should know better than to flirt wit a frnds bf. You have 2 luk at it from different angles..she's either lying abt not liking him in which case you should tell her to her face that she should back off...or maybe the guy is flirting with her too (yes i kno this would hurt dear but its better to be safe than sorry) n thats y she's doin it back..or it could also mean that ur friends r getting it all wrong..it maybe just harmless talking cuz u say she does it wen ur nt around which means u hvnt seen her at it. u'll have 2 confront ur bf n ur frnd. but DO NOT ACCUSE HIM of flirting with her..just ask him. Gud luck
2007-08-31 21:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by miss confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her to see if its true. Maybe your other friends are exaggerating. If its true and she is flirting with him, you should find other friends who will actually respect you, not someone who's going to stab you in the back.
As for your boyfriend...try not to be jealous. Trust is so important in a relationship. If you don't trust him to be faithful, maybe he's not the right person for you. Anyone could hit on him (or you for that matter). What's important isn't the actions of other people but the level of your commitment to each other.
Good luck~
2007-08-31 21:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend may be jealous of your relationship with the "good friend." Do you have any REAL reason to believe her over the "good friend"? Other than "she's my best friend and wouldn't lie to me"? Maybe she's trying to cause trouble so you'll completely dump the one she says is flirting you your b/f.
Get other witnesses. Or just ignore 'em both! Who have you known longest? Trust that one, unless she's pulled this kind of thing in the past.
2007-08-31 21:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Bryce 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem... just sit her down, and tell her that he's yours-back off. Also, tell your boyfriend the problem that you're having with her, and tell him to ignore her. If he doesnt listen, hes obviously not the best choice. And, if SHES flirting with YOUR boyfriend, shes obviously NOT your friend. shes just your friend so that she doesnt look bad, and she hangs out with you when youre with him to get around him... trust me, it happens with me and my bf like all the time... and i hate it!
2007-08-31 21:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by helloimkellieamber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not that good of a friend if she's doing this to you, and the guy is obviously not discouraging her advancements either. this happens a lot, a guy meets a girl and really likes her but then sees one of her friends that he likes better. unfortunately, there may be nothing you can do to stop this from happening. the best thing to do is make it clear to both of them that you can see what is happening and if either of them respect you they will talk to you about it rationally and like adults
2007-08-31 21:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by dead eye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap her!, no just kidding tell her that you dont appriciate her actions and that she seems to be acting shady not like a friend would, then tell her she should back off, or you could tell your boyfriend that she told you she has an STD but will never admit it to anyone and wont tell people she is dating cuz she doesnt care if they get it. then he will stay away from her..
2007-08-31 20:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lucas H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her to stop what she is doing because you really like him and want to be with him if she doesnt listen then you might lose a friend
2007-08-31 20:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by LonelyChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be compeletly honest w/her.tell her straight up to back off of ur boyfriend.she needs2chill out.get her own guy.
if this guy really likes u,he wont fall for her.trust em.ive gone through the same thing but my guy told my friend to back off he was w/me.so trust ur guy for now.
hope i helped
rock chic3
2007-08-31 21:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by rock chic3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can speak with your boyfriend about her let him know what you feels and think a relationship is based on honesty if he loves you he will not react towards your friends actions as for your friend its best not going to her as this might cause a conflict so allow your boyfriend to talk over his feelings for you to her so that she knows her limit
2007-08-31 21:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by princess14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋