My girlfriend and I decided to go to a fancy restaurant as a date. We both suggested it; no one asked the other out. It was expensive and I offered to pay because I figured she would pay me back soon. I didn't think I'd have to tell her to pay me back because I figured it was proper etiquette. It's been three weeks and she hasn't even mentioned paying me back. How long am I supposed to wait?
2007-08-31 13:10:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, you must be new to dating. guys pay. period. I have never paid for a date!!!!!!!!
2007-08-31 13:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lonely Turkey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can she be your girlfriend if it's your first date? Presumptious of you isn't it? Regardless, in your own words it was a first date. Usually the "man" pays on the first date unless an agreement is made to go "Dutch Treat" which is each person sharing the bill for the meal. After being with someone for a while it's nice for a girl to offer, even insist, on paying once in a while.
Man up and let it go. Otherwise you'll find yourself on Judge Judy or in court with a frivolous lawsuit. If you have feelings for her let it go. If you're not able to pay for a date the next time, set a standard before going (e.g., who's paying for what).
2007-08-31 20:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by Frosses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proper etiquette is you just paid and that's it. The guy usually pays unless you had an agreement to go dutch treat, or something else. You just learned rule #1. The guy pays, and you are supposed to do so graciously. as you get older you'll become better at picking dates that you'll have sex with after dinner and a movie etc . I'm Kidding you'll never get that good.
2007-08-31 20:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not going to pay you back! That wasn't the agreement. It was "proper ettiquette" for you to pay in the first place. She must have thought that when you said that you'd pay, that you'd PAY--not her. You're screwed, buddy. You'll seem like a petty jerk if you bring this up and ask for your money back. You should have said something like: "do you want to split the bill?" Not: "sure honey, I'll pay." You messed up big time, and you aren't getting any money back. Sorry.
2007-08-31 20:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dana Mulder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where the hell did Chivalry go! Suck it up and pay for the date. You offered to pay. Any person would take that as ok I don't have to pay. Seriously try to impress the girl and stop asking for money. Next time go on a picnic.
2007-08-31 20:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by aggiesweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well! If someone asked me to pay him back after a date - I would and then I'd say goodbye! How embarrasing would this be for her? She obviously thinks that you picked up the tab and were happy to do it. If you're short of cash, why not suggest a picnic next time!!
2007-08-31 20:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Briallen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl should never pay for a first date. Or any date for that matter.
2007-08-31 20:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, since you offered to pay, she must have just assumed that that was that. don't expect your money back, and i wouldn't mention it or it might turn into something ugly.
if you don't want to pay in the future, just say " i'll pay right now, you can pay me back later." or something like that. you have to let her know that you expect to be reimbursed - though, she might be irritated. girls like being treated once in a while.
2007-08-31 20:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jewel M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You offered to pay. She doesn't have to pay you back. You should have suggested the two of you split the bill. She isn't going to and you shouldn't expect her to pay you back.
2007-08-31 20:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Rita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your supposed to pay, that's just how things work, don't be waiting for the money. She;s your girlfriend, spoil her rotten or she'll leave you for somebody who will.
2007-08-31 20:19:47 · answer #10 · answered by pulleyman123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well normally the person who asks the other person out has to pay
but since like you say it wasn't just one person's idea
and you payed for it
i don't think it's right for you to think that she should pay you back for it
if i was her, i'd think that you had payed for it
and that was that
if you ask her to pay you back
i doubt she'll ever go out with you again
2007-08-31 20:21:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋