my boyfriend and i have a good thing goin, but me and his best friend r getting really close.i see his bf more tha ni see him, and every1 says we should go out and that we flirt.i am starting to have feelings for him, but i still have feelings for my boyfriend.what should i do????
2007-08-31 13:04:12 · 21 answers · asked by HarleyQuinn2011 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and just so u know, im not cheating on my bf, im just chillin wit his buddy.and me and him have never done anything like that, i would never cheat on someone.i just dont know cause my bf's best bud shows me more attention, and talks to me more,and we have a lot in common.but i still care for my bf.and im not a whore, just confused
2007-08-31 13:19:31 · update #1
it is up to you
only you can decide it
but you better be sure you wont do any shyt
2007-08-31 13:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok you need to stop hanging out with his bestfriend. The one thing a girl doesnt want to do is come in between male friends. Until you find your husband men come and go so why break up their friendship just because you are crushing his friend. If you care about both of them you would leave the bestfriend alone and maybe you need space from your bf to figure out if you are really ready for a serious relationship.
2007-08-31 13:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by luv82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful on what you do next. You should leave the best friend alone and out of the picture. If you are that attracted to someone else, you probably don't have that great of a thing with the boyfriend. Break it off with him, let him find someone that will appreciate him. Do NOT go out with the best friend, it will make too many waves to be worth the hassle.
2007-08-31 13:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful because you are playing a dangerous game. I think you need sometime to think. For sure one of you three or all of you are gonna end up hurt. Imagine if your boyfriend did this with you bestfriend. Try to think out why this happens. And if you want to be with your boyfriend you shouldnt hang out too much with his friend. Only you know what you want and what to do. But play it fair and be honest with both of them. Especially before anything happens between you and his friend if thats how you feel. Also make sure that you just dont like the friend because he is flirting with you or because its something different. The grass is not always greener on the other side you know.
2007-08-31 13:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were describing your bf's best friend as a friend not somebody to have affection for. You are just really confused. You have feelings for this other dude because your boyfriend is never around for you when you want him to be. I have a guy friend who is like the guy that you are starting to have affection for. But my boyfriend is the one that I know I can talk to to any time with any of my problems, personal and what not but to the other guy we just have things in common.
2007-09-03 02:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should purposely NOT see your boyfriend’s best friend - for the sake of saving your relationship. Make an effort to see your boyfriend more. Don't flirt with his friends, and definitely don't make it aware that you have something for him. You’re with your boyfriend for a reason, correct? So keep it that way. BUT, if you feel things aren't going too great, then you're better off breaking it off, rather than letting things linger. I wouldn't suggest moving on right away, especially if it’s with his best friend. That's just wrong. And it's definitely code that one should not hook up with their significant other's best friend. It's just out of respect to not do that.
Main point: try to rekindle things with your now boyfriend. Yes it's hard to fight feelings, but put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes, would you appreciate it if he broke up with you and started dating your best friend???
2007-08-31 13:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by Loves It<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide that. You obviously have feelings for your bf, otherwise you would of left him already. You should stick with him unless he starts acting insecure, like a wuss, etc. His best friend, if he is a loyal friend, would not go out with you since you are with his best friend. To us guys, its the ultimate betrayal of friendship to steal another's gf. Especially if the two guys are good friends.
2007-08-31 13:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by jscorpion1120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume your bf doesn't know or approve, so it sounds like something that you wouldn't really feel proud of doing. Also if this best friend treats his best friends this way, how is he going to treat you when your relationship gets a bit old?
2007-08-31 13:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Bobcat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've ever watched Springer - you know where this goes if you don't stop this and be honest with your boyfriend. And by the way it's proper "guy" ediquette for a friend to date one of his friend's girlfriends - broken up or not broken up ; Esp the "not broken up" part. Remember: Springer
2007-08-31 13:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by CHRISTOPHER C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't cheat on your boyfriend. Figure out what you really want and if it's the other guy, break up with your man.
2007-08-31 13:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by jackibear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u need a long think over the weekend what u want him or ure bf its going to be hard, but u know u will bust up a freindship is it really that worth it ??
2007-08-31 13:10:39 · answer #11 · answered by beboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋