I have a friend who is getting married and I think the person is being somewhat inconsiderate of their guests because they are registering for the most expensive things in 2 expensive stores for example $100 just for a flat bed sheet, not even a set, $50 for 1 wine glass and $300 for a blanket. Literally every item had to be the most expensive for them to put it on the registry. Is this something I should address my friend, I would hate others to think my friend was being greedy and only wanted the best.
2007-08-31 12:19:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She will definitely learn. People will buy her whatever they feel like if they don't feel like anything on the registry is suitable. She'll be lucky to get gift cards.
2007-08-31 12:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. R. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything. Trust me she will not appreciate the input regardless of your intentions. She is aware of the cost of her items and like previous poster said is going to catch on when she gets off-registry items or even nothing.
She could just be a snob. Some people really think that the number on the reciept is equal to the quality of the item and she may not want "cheap Target crap" as some bride put it. Some people have so much money the forget what it's like to live on a budget so spending $50 on a wine glass IS low end to them.
It could also be a ploy for cash. Many brides try to "trick" guests into giving monetary gifts. Two of the most common are not registering at all or registering for outrageously expensive items knowing that guests can't afford them and are more likely to just give money.
If you have a hard time getting the items talk with other guests close to you. Perhaps you can all pitch in and get the 300 blanket or whatever she wants.
2007-08-31 19:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything. Your friend chose to register for all that expensive stuff, so she'll need to deal with the consequences of what others think. If you were planning to spend say $50, I'd buy the $50 wine glass. Or you could buy her a gift certificate from that store, or pitch in with another guest or guests to buy a more expensive item.
Someone pointed out that in some cases, registering for very expensive items is a ploy to get cash. I personally wouldn't give cash in a case like this, b/c I don't want to reward that ploy.
Gileswench pointed out that she does have the right to register for whatever she wants. I agree and would only say anything if she asks you what you think. Sometimes it's best not to offer unsolicited advice and to let the chips fall where they may.
2007-08-31 20:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she's already registered?
The thing is, she can register for whatever she likes, but nothing in the world obligates anyone to use or even look at her registry.
Chances are she'll get a certain number of gift cards for the place she's registered, a couple gifts people went in on together, and a lot of things she didn't ask for.
Yes, it's going to look bad to a lot of people, but she really should have thought about what she truly needed a bit harder, rather than assuming that the larger price tag equalled the best quality or nicest thing.
You might be able to encourage her to add a few things in a more reasonable price range, but the final decision is up to her.
I hope she listens to reason.
2007-08-31 20:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by gileswench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can point out that though they have them in the registry does NOT mean that someone will buy it for them.
Those who do not want to spend that much money will either buy a lesser priced gift or go on their own.
Some people also put high priced items on the list so, when the wedding day is over, they can go and get the discount, as some stores have a 10% discount for items not bought on the registry.
They may be going that route.
2007-08-31 19:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Julez. If she does ask, then speak up and let her know you're concerned with a few items. Ultimately though, if she's being greedy and/or materialistic, she will soon find how little she really gets. She'll show her true colors even further when someone shows up with a gift of a set of wine glasses for $30 instead of one at $25.
Let her be how she is. It will bite her in the butt sooner or later.
2007-08-31 19:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No no no. You mustnt say anything. And do not feel obligated to spend more than you otherwise would. I think she may be surprised when her registry isnt filled. Just get her a gift of your own choice that isnt on the registry
2007-08-31 19:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by barthebear 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since nobody is obligated to buy that for them, no harm no foul. I do hope they didn't publicize their own registry information, though...that's WAY tacky.
2007-08-31 23:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by Bill 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say something to her it will come across very badly on your part. People will convey to her that it's rude by not buying anything off of it. She'll figure it out.
2007-08-31 20:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say a word. People do NOT have to buy from registries.
2007-09-01 09:30:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋