so here's the deal, im 16 and im thinking about moving in w/ dad-stepmom, but my mom and my stepdad are against it, and so is my grandparents and aunt/uncle. when i told my mom she started yelling and saying things like, "I have had you under my wing since day one!!!" and stuff like "I nursed you and had you in my body for 9 months!!!!!" and i told her i loved her and it's nothing against her but she won't understand! i really just want to try something new and i want more freedom. i just need to breakaway for awhile. what should i do? what is involved in switching "custodial rights"?
2007-08-31 09:51:49 · 4 answers · asked by ♥snapple♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The question is: what is best for you? But that is easy said and hard to decide. Maybe you can convince her, but if she has legal custody, then you may not have a choice unless you get emancipated. Get some counseling and legal advice. Ask her to let you talk it "out" with her and then see if "reason" can prevail over emotions, yours and hers.
2007-08-31 09:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is right. She changed your diapers, burped you, stayed up all night when you were screaming, and now you just want to walk away? You are basically telling her that she is worthless and you don't love her anymore.
Changing custodial rights is a really big deal. This is not like buying a new purse. It will entail lawyers and going to court, and lots of tears, money, and drama. LOTS of drama.
If you want to try something new, get a new hobby. If you are 16, then you will get sick of everyone and everything depending on the week or the month.
Now if you are being abused or mistreated, then I could see a real reason for you to change custody, otherwise you are really hurting your entire family.
One day you will have a child, then you will understand. If you want to see your dad, take a vacation, but don't go to court.
2007-08-31 10:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some things you need to think about.
1)teenage years is when a girls needs moom to teach her about being a good woman in society.
2)Why do you want to move??More freedom?? you mean to take advantage of dad so you can manipulate him???
3)Does your mom count on and need your child support to help the family???
4) Does your dad and especially step-mom really love you and really want you there for you and not just to take you away from mom like a trophy.
2007-08-31 11:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it. Your mother loves you and in time she will understand that you need to know both of your parents. Just continue to reassure her you love her but want to know him better. This is provided that they are just not wanting you to leave and there is not other underlining reasons they fill this way
2007-08-31 12:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by LISA C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋