Well first of all, I'm really in love with my husband. We got married a month ago. But, there's this feeling that I have that doesn't go away. I see that he may not be really in love with me...he fell in love with someone he grew up with at the church..simply adored her...that was his first love....and he thinks she is the love of his life....
Do you all think that one day he'll fall in love with me and think that what he felt for her doesn't compare to the love he feels for me? or am I just lost...and won't ever feel like he really loves me?
I just really love him, I may sound selfish but I always dreamed of finding someone and marrying someone who would love me alot in return too not just me. Do I have hope or not?
2007-08-31 09:51:46 · 8 answers · asked by christy321014 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, I knew this way before I married him. So I guess that's how things are going to be no matter what. I'll learn to live with it. The girl that he considers is the love of his life was a girl that he grew up with. Ever since both were small (like from 10-17)..they were very good friends. They would find b/f/ g/f for each other until they felt that that friendship grew up to love. They didn't admit it right away, but they would tell each other's friends that they like each other. Then later, when he was 18, they were boyfriend and girlfriend. I guess he was very happy..... He liked everything about her, liked her big round eyes, her white skin, her dark hair, her very big hips and breasts….her big lips. He very romantic, treated her like a queen, demonstrated that he was very much in love, gave her everything except sex. When they were 3 months together…she was unfaithful.
2007-09-01 02:56:14 · update #1
One night they were at the movies, and she told him “ask me for anything and I’ll give it to you”…..he only smiled and gave her a big kiss on the lips. Since they were mormons...they supostely aren't allowed to have sex beffore marriage. He respected her alot…then a few days later, she dumped him.…a few days later, he found out that he had slept with someone else. He cried and suffered a lot. Felt like he was going to die. So that’s what he considers his great love, the love of his life. He likes me and everything but doesn’t consider me the love of his life…….I don’t have great lips….not big hips….my body is normal but I’m not considered pear shaped…..I’m more normal…I have a 36 c….and nice hips…..but not way too big like she did. I look at her on the picture…and I don’t consider her pretty….not because I look at her wrong..but she is really not pretty at all…….and the people that know her and me…..say that I’m way prettier and nicer. But oh well……
2007-09-01 02:56:46 · update #2
Did you know that he felt this way this way before you married him? If not, what led up to him admitting it now? Most people do have one true love of their life that they want to be with, but sometimes things happen...a spouse dies or leaves.. and this person has to learn to love all over again. It happens all the time. So you may become the love of his life, or you may not. Be honest with him about your feelings. Ask him to respect your concerns enough to be honest with you. His answer will help you decide what you can or cannot live without.
2007-08-31 10:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an infatuation that he can grow out out, as he emotionally matures. Some do. Some don't. But you need to let it alone for a few years.
2007-08-31 09:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can fall in love many, many times.
(What kind of man tells his wife that some other woman is the "love of his life" ?)
2007-08-31 09:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by bebop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres an old italian saying
your only allowed three great women in your life
2007-08-31 10:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by AboveTheLaws 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes all the time.
2007-08-31 10:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you totally have hope, have patience and persevere, good luck
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2007-08-31 09:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep
2007-08-31 09:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by jt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do.find out wat is it dat he likes about da girl n try to improve urself(including character).it'll take sometime.and dont force urself to be someone ur not
2007-08-31 10:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by sean b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋