So i'm going to try and keep this short and to the point. There's this girl that i have really fallen in love with. She has recently gone through a bitter break up back in May. I have asked her out, the first time she said it was too soon after her break up and the second time she said she didn't have time nor did she trust boys anymore. I'm not the only one that has asked her out so i know its not all bull crap. I've told her i'm never going to give up. I wrote her a really sweet poem that brought a tear to her eye and i bring her flowers and so on and so forth. She knows i like her, she knows that i really want to go out with her, so should i just wait and see what she decides to do later on down the road, or should i continue to fight for her.
~Please don't leave any sarcastic crap, i really want some good advice. Thanks very much!!
2007-08-31 09:15:39 · 26 answers · asked by Silent.K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This isn't sarcastic - but HOW can you fall in love with someone when you haven't even had the chance to spend time with her?!?!?
2007-08-31 09:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you should never give up.that was a promise you made her.You should be careful what you say to woman.that means that if you guys were to get married then you still would never stop fighting for her and loving her .when you say something like that we as woman take it very seriously she probably does not believe you cause a lot of people now days just say stuff at first but then when the relationships get hard the guys starts acting like an *** hole or they are wondering why the girl is always depressed and its all because he at first was so into her and showed how much he loved her and now she can barely even get a loving note from him or a phone call saying that hes thinking about her and loves her so much.Be careful very careful what you say to woman.maybe you need to go to her and if you really are ready be with her for the rest of your life you need to take back that promise until she has actually confirmed that she wants to be with you.just tell her that although you said what you said you understand that it is very hard for her to believe anything a man tells her right now and that you are sorry for putting that pressure on her and that you would at least like the chance maybe eventually to date her and see if you might be together forever.but don't start throwing out promises when you hardly even know her and I mean know her in a girlfriend kindof a way.I should write a book.lol good luck.
2007-08-31 16:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by foxy lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not keep on her about it or you could easily push her further away. Give her the time and space that she needs before you ruin your chances with her all together. We do not like to be smothered like that. Even with you doing the nice gestures, it also tells her that you have other motives than just trying to be nice and considerate. She will think that the only reason you are doing that is bc you want her to go out with you, and that is not right for you to do. Slow down and let her take the lead for a while, but do not stop all together or she will think that you are no longer interested in her. Still let her know how you feel, but give her space and time at the same time. Good luck!
2007-08-31 16:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her some time. She might come around, but don't try to force your way in. I think the romantic gestures help some, as long as they are wanted by her end. That always help work your way end and show her what a romantic and nice guy you are. Also I hope that if you do win over her heart that the romantic stuff you do in the beginning continues all the way through. Good luck. You sound like a really great guy. Just make sure your motives are good and pure also. That you aren't gonna be the next one to break her heart
2007-08-31 16:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it, dude. I think women know right away whether or not they would date a guy. A woman doesn't say no if she really wants to do it. She might let you down gently by giving you some other excuses, but if she wanted you, she'd be more receptive to your advances. That's a hard pill to swallow. After my separation from my daughter's mother, I went through a few years where it seemed like none of the women I was interested in would date me. Then my new girlfriend came into my life, and we are now planning to get married. It happened out of blue when I was least expecting it, and we knew right away we were right for each other. Hang in there, bro, but don't keep chasing the wrong woman.
2007-08-31 16:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was in love with her ex boyfriend and the break-up was painful, she may not have recovered from it yet. Or she just may want to avoid telling you are a nice friend but she doesn't want more than that. Either way, you have expressed your interest with flowers and poems. She would have to be blind to not see your interest. It is time to step back and let her make the next move. She may need more time or you will have to face the fact that she really is not interested in spite of what she says.
2007-08-31 16:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that the best thing to do is wait a few days, give her space. Then after that you should go out to lunch with her or dinner (if she is willing) and tell her it is not going to be a date but you want to talk about some things. Then if she goes then talk about normal stuff for a bit, then over dinner tell her that you have strong feelings for her but you don't want to push her into something she is not ready for. After that see how she reacts and if things are good call her 2 days after the prior meal (but make sure it is at a good time of day) ask her out on a casual date.
I hope things work out for you and I hope this helped!!!!
2007-08-31 16:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by ttg11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation I would be very patient.
If she came out of a bad break-up then she will need time how much time is up to her also depending on how bad her previous relationship was. She might not be used to poems and flowers. If she really likes you she will come around but keep in mind you can only fight so much.
2007-08-31 16:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by #48 ♥'s YOU 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a case when you will just have to be patient. After someone has been deeply hurt by a person they loved it can be very hard for them to trust and open up their feelings again, but you are doing a good job at laying groundwork to show her that you are sincere, and thoughtful, so just hang in there and continue to do what your doing and hopefully soon, with your help, she will learn to trust again and give you a chance. Good luck to you.
2007-08-31 16:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Useless Knowledge 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she went through a bad break up maybe you should give her some space but still keep in contact with her. You can talk to her on the phone, go watch movies, go to dinner as friends then maybe when she is ready to move on hopefully it will be with you. But dont be too pushy because then she will probably think you are just annoying.
2007-08-31 16:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how long and how much in love she was with this person and is she still holding a torch for him.tour may want to wait for her but you also may miss out on another opportunity with someone else who could also make you happy.i love the flower and poem thing but i would lay low now she knows how you feel about her it could scare her off if you per sue too much she could feel stalked.anyway good luck
2007-08-31 16:28:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋