A guy that I have known for over a year now is making me wonder. We have been going on dates off and on since we met. He has stood me up a few times in the past with the fear that I was going to move away and he and or his daughter was going to be attached to me. I am giving him another chance bc I really like him...BUT he wont make a move at me at all after all this time. We have never kissed let alone held hands. He will sit really close to me on the couch when we watch movies to where we are touching, and hugs me all the time. Ive talked to him, but all I get is that he wants to get to know me before he introduces me to his daughter and before it goes any further....ITS BEEN OVER A YEAR!!! What is he really telling me? Im a bit old fashioned in the belief that men should make the first move. We hang out alot, and I enjoy being with him...but Im really confused...is he just scared, is he pulling me along, or is he waiting for me to make the move? A little help please!!:)
2007-08-31 08:48:59 · 11 answers · asked by lizzieRN13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His background is good, yes I have seen pics of his daughter and him together...and since we started talking again about 4 weeks ago I see him at least once a week. He is very protective of his daughter. But this hasnt been going on the whole time...like I said we stopped talking a few times over the past year and a half.
2007-08-31 09:01:51 · update #1
He also came from a crummy divorce...he caught his wife cheating on him.....
2007-08-31 09:03:52 · update #2
It really sounds like he's scared....not so much of you, but of the commitment, because of the past....you have to decide what your limits are, time, intimacy, marriage, etc....and draw the line in the sand. It doesn't sound like he's waiting for you...it sounds like he's afraid of committing his heart for fear of ultimate rejection....
2007-08-31 08:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by waynocook53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound right. If you don't date very often maybe he doesn't feel like you're really moving towards anything. I think you need to try to make yourself a regular in his life and pick up speed a little bit. Kissing would help and dating more regularly too. If it doesn't look like anything will change even after that I'd figure he looks at you as a friend and nothing more.
2007-08-31 15:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows whats going on. He would have made a move by now. It's really time to move on and find someone who wont tease you like that. FInd a great guy who will make it clear how he feels because he can't contain it. Hes out there. I found one!! good luck
2007-08-31 15:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Keri K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've never met he's daughter in a year.Have you ever seen him with her.You say he is OK company.I think your being blind in
the need for companionship-plus.He sounds like a real sicko
You should do some checking on he's background
2007-08-31 15:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by angler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just sit down with him and ask him what he's looking for from this connection he has with you. If you put it that way, you won't sound frantic. And, some people are very protective of their kids... some never bring dates home or anything!
2007-08-31 15:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot tel after "all this time"... then he's not into you. He is just keeping you on the bench as a pinch hitter or back up plan.
Don't be this guy's plan B.
2007-08-31 15:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to discourage you, but from what you have said here, he is just not into you that way. I think he sees you only as a friend and not a romance.
2007-08-31 15:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Invisible 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell you this...... he only likes you as a friend. If he was into you, he would have made a move a long time ago.
sorry.
2007-08-31 15:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will tell you or start talking and maybe you can ask him if you will date me or the other way around do not be embrassed if you ask him and he doesn't.
2007-08-31 15:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by goosemiller25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not made for you,he is only use you for his greed.see another one who really loves you in real means
2007-09-01 03:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by bobby_singh_rai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋