what can i say or offer that will help comfort them, I dont even know where to start or what to say. I just feel so bad for them this would be their 3rd child
2007-08-31 08:26:30 · 8 answers · asked by lorenzo and lily's mommy 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It is best to be around for support, create time for diversion and fun, and to listen to your friend's wife if she needs to talk about what went on. Let her cry if she needs to. She will probably be in "mourning" for a while and will have periods of depression. Be tolerant and compassionate. Do not offer explanations or conjectures about why the pregnancy loss happened or be overly consoling and pitying (like, don't talk about God's will and all for the best and that nonsense. Just acknowledge that a painful thing happened. End of story). Also, don't avoid a person who is in grief. This causes more feelings of isolation and self-deprecation.
I experienced a similar situation regarding a series of pregnancy losses. The last was at a late stage in the game. The person who was most appreciated was a friend of an acquaintance (who was a stranger to me) who had a similar experience. She called me and just let me talk it out and let me know she could relate to how I felt.
2007-08-31 08:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by philosophyangel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, that is really hard. Just offer your condolences and support. whatever you do just don't say that you know what they are going through (unless you have delivered a dead baby); only because you dont know. Just being there as a friend is the best you can do.
2007-08-31 16:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by pumpkinseed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually just hug them, tell them I'm sorry and let them know if they need anything I am available.
It is also a nice gesture to take food or offer to run errands, offer to baby sit the other kids etc...
2007-08-31 15:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry she had to do that. That has to be so hard feeling the baby move for months, and all of a sudden find out it didn't make it. Just tell them that you are there for them if they ever need to talk to someone. believe me, they will.
2007-08-31 15:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your really sorry for their loss. You just gotta be supportive. If she wants to cry lend her your shoulder.
Eventually she will feel better. My cousin lost her baby too a few months ago... at first it was painful but as time went by she got better.....
My sympathies to your friend...
2007-08-31 15:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lynne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
still born is a terrible thing to go through and is vey hard for the parents to cope with...just tell them you are sorry for their loss and offer your help in any way if they need anything...then just leave them alone for awhile to get through it
2007-08-31 15:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!! Just be there and offer your support!!! That is not something that is going to go away fast, and it takes time!!! When she is ready to talk, just listen, and offer your support!!!
2007-08-31 15:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by ஐ♥Kaylee's mom♥ஐ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can really say is that you are sorry for their loss and offer to help anyway you can and let them know that you are there for them.
2007-08-31 15:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋