doesnt have his high school diploma or GED. this is my wifes part of the family, i dont know if i should get involved by giving him advice, i do not want to start beef with his parents or any of her family. what can i do? i went through the same thing ...i opened my eyes at 24 went back to school got my HS diploma and then my B.S in electronic engineering..should i get involved with his life .. i feel like sitting down and having a talk with this young man.. since his parents are doing nothing about it
2007-08-31 08:11:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Obviously no one really is making him grow up, unfortunetly... i think a talk about how you have been there done that wouldnt hurt.. but if nothing happens after that, than i would just back off becuase you dont want beef with the family. It IS his life, and he is legally an adult and should be able to do things on his own, but he doesnt want to. Hopefully he will grow up soon.
2007-08-31 08:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by muzicchiq 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are married to your wife. -That makes you family!
Why not give him positive advice?
My nephew went through the exact same thing. My husband became his mentor and encouraged him to go back to school and that's what he did. My nephew got his GED and is in search for a good college.
I always encouraged him but sometimes it needs to come from another guy. -You know... a guy to guy talk.
My nephew is really close to my husband because he took the time with him that his own parents couldn't spare.
So, I would say go for it. -Good luck and God Bless.
2007-08-31 08:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he doesnt mind being poor and having no goals at this time he's old enough to figure it out. I commend you for feeling you should do something about it.. Maybe one day at a family gathering you could ask him what his plans are..i wouldnt start off by telling him what you think he is doing is wrong and needs to change the way he works.
2007-08-31 08:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by hlboin_2005 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be pushy with him, but talk to him. Let him know what happened with you and hopefully he can understand. Would their family get upset that you told the nephew to go to school? If they did that's a messed up family. Do it casually. Next time you see him or go to a family gathering talk to him about it.
2007-08-31 09:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by misstsukino 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a talk with him and tell him how you feel, he might not listen because hes already 22 he might just want to live his life how he wants to and if thats the case dont be pushy because then you might just end up causing a big fight.
2007-08-31 08:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by nichole l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not. It sure wouldn't hurt. I would bring up his work in causual conversation and lead up to it. Let him know you where in the same boat as he is and knows where he is coming from. The conversation will let you know if he is receptive, if not let it drop and don't give it another thought.
2007-08-31 08:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could have a talk with him (what's it gonna hurt?). Tell him your experiences and the bad (or good) it did. But don't be over-bearing and pushy about it.
2007-08-31 08:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Cheeks 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i wouldn't bother to have a little chat but tell him just as a friend to friend that ur not bossing him around or telling what to do. tell him that you have been in those shoes...blah blah...things like that.
2007-08-31 08:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by LUCY JO 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋