christains...why is this idea so terrible?

Question

every time i see this question asked, christians are falling all over themselves to refute it. why is it so offensive to your sensiblities to think that jesus may have been married?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgC8GrkzyKb0JzpEwzeiW9Dd7BR.?qid=20070831115857AAe7YCT

i don't care whether it actually happened or not, i'm just curious as to why you get so up in arms about it.

a lot of these answers prove my point...insults and cut and pastes. None of these people were alive when jesus supposedly existed. The bible never mentions jesus using the bathroom or brushing his hair, or anything, but those things had to have happened. most men in those times were married. it's so funny that people believe a text that's been recopied millions of times couldn't have left anything out.

Answer 1

Because the clear teaching of the Bible is that those who believe in Jesus are the "Bride of Christ." To put it into Star Trek terms (just to give you an illustration that most people can understand), we're a "collective" -- one being -- made up of many. Jesus is our "betrothed" and we await His return for us. When we hear non-believers say He was married, or that He could have been married, we react as any betrothed woman would: with jealousy. Does that make sense?

EDIT: Elfkin, everyone knows that Jesus had wind-swept hair, like Fabio in the "I Can't Believe it's not Butter" commercial -- so no comb was necessary.

(It's a joke -- please, no vicious emails from my fellow fundies.)

Answer 2

There is a scene in the bible where Jesus turns water into wine at a wedding festival. I'm sure if he had married, it would have been a big event and would have been highlighted. Jesus knew his mission was to die faithfully and being the loving person that he was, would not have left a widow. The bible speaks of his bride being the 144,000 that were bought from the earth.

The idea that he may have been married is just a great excuse to make another movie. Some people are ready to believe anything except the truth.

Answer 3

I think that some people get up in arms about it because it's not true. Even secular non-believing historical scholars concede that there is no evidence to suggest that it is. We have so much writing from that period (Apostolic Era) and there is nothing to even remotely suggest that He had a wife. I think that it would have been mentioned, at least as a passing reference, if Jesus had a wife. If someone found out tomorrow somehow that Jesus was married, it wouldn't destroy my faith, but it's just another one of these revisionist history type of things, a lot of times brought forward with the hidden agenda of trying to defame and discredit the Church. Our Church is and has been the faithful guardian of all that is right and true from that time forward. In every era, even when the majority of the Church itself fell into apostasy, there have been a small, loyal, faithful remnant of people who have helped to preserve and continue the true faith. Remember - Christ instituted His Church here on earth to last until He comes again. And it will.

P.S.: Good answer, zenmasterb0b: A better question would be "Why do people want so badly for Jesus to be married?" Getting and being married is no small thing, like brushing your teeth etc. Some men were married then some were not. The Apostle John was only in his late teens (so holy tradition tells us) and he probably was not married. Some of the Apostles who probably were married left everything (including their wives) to go follow Jesus. Remember, Jesus did not say "Go settle your affairs first, then come follow Me." He said "Follow me." Period. One would-be disciple told Jesus that he had to go bury his father first. Jesus replied "Let the dead bury their dead".

Answer 4

If I was still a Xian, I would not take offense and about the only comment I would have made is that the bible doesn't mention it therefore it's useless to speculate about it or attach importance to it either way.

Now, there is an interesting side trip into the books/gospels that didn't make it into the Bible and what they say about it.

Edit:
Even though I treat this question as an intellectual exercise, it's amazing the number of people that assume that if the bible didn't say it it must not have happened. Not trying to be crass but if Jesus ate, he probably expelled waste - this is not important to the message and hence is not included. The same reasoning could be applied to his "alleged" marriage.

Answer 5

Here is an honest answer. I am a Christian. This idea does make me feel uncomfortable. I don't know why it should though. I have never tried to argue the point for or against it.

On the one hand the Bible is all for marriage. Jesus' first miracle was performed at a wedding feast so we know that He had nothing against marriage. On the other hand I think (I THINK don't KNOW) that His work with the people and His disciples would not provide any time for Him to devote time to a wife. His love was in His ministry. Also I don't feel that the Bible supports that He had a wife. He did have many female followers but none were pointed out as being his wife. But perhaps that was to protect her. I can accept that not everything is for me to know.

Answer 6

I asked a similar question a couple of days back.

Frankly, I believe it would have been mentioned in one of the gospels if he had not been married since by Jewish law at the time one could not be a teacher unless one was married.

In a response to my question someone pointed out that the marital status of the Apostles is not mentioned either and believed that this ment that none of them were married. On the contrary, I believe that marital status was not mentioned simply because it can be assumed that they were married just like everyone else. Had they chosen not to marry I suspect that there would have been more than passing mention to justify why.

Answer 7

I guess because this is "Yahoo Answers", and it's a question, and that's what people do when someone asks a question in "Yahoo Answers".

Y'know?

Answer questions?

That people ask?

My counter question would be, "Why do people want Jesus to have been married so much?" I mean, it seems like that would have been a major detail in his life. I don't see where it would have negated any prophesy for him to have been married, so there was no reason to cover it up if he was, which makes me think that maybe, just maybe, he wasn't, since he never mentioned it.

Answer 8

Jesus was never married and did not have children. The reason being is that he came to this earth for a specific purpose-to die for our sins. If he were to come here with the knowledge that he would be leaving a wife and children behind, that would make him a sinner. If he was a sinner, he would not be perfect & blemish free, therefore he would not be fit to be anyone's savior. If it was ok for someone to be a sinner and still be a savior, then I can save you all!

Answer 9

Jesus is the Son of God; therefore, any suggestion that He was married - and especially the idea that He had children - would bring Him, in His divinity, into areas appropriate only to humanity.

In other words, marriage is a good thing, but it is for this world only, as He Himself taught us. Jesus lived in the world, but was not of the world.

Moreover, it is very dangerous to speculate such things about Jesus. There is no evidence whatsoever that He was married; what's the point in suggesting that He was?

Answer 10

1. I'm not falling all over myself.

2. Christ didn't marry. He would never have believed it good to marry, then leave a widow to fend for herself. That would have gone against His own perfection.

3. Accept it and move on.