I gave her the stupid dress i paid half for and she wants me to pay for the other half and her keep the dress. i was gonna do it just to get her to leave me alone. now she wants me to pay for an entire dress for her new bridesmaid. $200! she is nuts. she is accusing me of sabotaging her wedding. she was just getting too demanding so i wanted out.
can she really win on something like this? oh i have to take a vacation day to go to court so this just seems like a whole waste of time.
small claims have fees she would have to pay but i dont think she cares, she just wants revenge.
poor me.
2007-08-31 07:47:48 · 28 answers · asked by belfle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Did you sign a contract with the dress shop? If you did, please read it. You are probably responsible for paying for the dress. If you pay for the dress you can keep it or sell it to the new bridesmaid (very tacky to ask someone to replace you now, and insulting to the new woman). But, I rather doubt she can sue you for not fulfilling your role. Well, she can bring it to small claims but she'll most likely not win since she has to show damages. What could her damages possibly be?
NOTE: she cannot sue you for having to replace the bridesmaid because she does not have to replace you. The sides don't have to be even and she can still get married with one less bridesmaid. The only thing she can sue you for is if she has any damages. Again, what could the damages possibly be? Silly.
2007-08-31 08:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she could really win something like this. Now you would be responsible for your own dress as custom but it would be YOUR dress. (especially if you signed anything upon ordering the dress). Now the only way I can see you having to pay for the dress and give it back to her is if she had this designed specifically for this purpose. In this case, sometimes designers charge more to have to rush a dress for the replacement bridesmaid. I've had some real experiences in Bridezilla weddings... just be glad you got out and didn't have to smile all pretty for the pictures!!!
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-08-31 08:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would she want the dress if she wants you to pay for it? I don't get it. Mainly because of the size- did she really find someone else to fit into the same dress as you? Wow, I had a friend do something along the lines of crazy like this to me before- only a completely different story. After this is all over, I wouldn't talk to her at ALL ever again. People like this don't deserve friends if this is how they treat them. I'm a bride-to-be, and I would NEVER ever think about doing something like this to any bridesmaid! And if my bridesmaids needed help paying for their dresses, I'd help any way I could. This is just insane! The girl has major problems!! Good for you for backing out! I hope everything goes your way and not hers!
Good luck!
2007-08-31 08:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by m930 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she'd be able to win in that case, but then you know how the court systems are...
I take it she offered to pay for her bridemaids' dresses as a gift to them for being her bridesmaids, right? Well, she's got another thing coming. Of course, there more than likely isn't any proof that she offered to pay for half the cost of the dresses, but the fact that this was a gift is enough. As far as I know, she can't legally make you pay for something like that. But then, she sounds like a total drama queen and could probably get you for emotional distress if she puts on a good enough act. People today...
I hope you have a good lawyer! Good luck and I'm sorry you have to deal with some one so pathetic.
2007-08-31 07:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I honestly would let her sue you. Lots of times people make threats to sue, and then never do--actually that's most of the time. If she's so selfish as to actually do it, just let her. From what you've said, she doesn't have a legal leg to stand on--granted that's after hearing only your side of the story. But like you said, she's going to have to pay the filing fees, etc., and in my county that's like $100 right there. Seems pretty stupid to pay $100 for the off chance you might get $200. Hopefully her hubby will talk some sense into her. Be thankful you've seen this side of her, and know she's not a friend of yours. Pray for her hubby--poor guy needs it, he's marrying a shrew!!!
2007-08-31 08:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is so sad. You paid what you would have paid, had you been in the wedding. I mean you did what you were supposed to do. What if you got sick and couldnt be in it? At least she has time to make some alternate plans. I wonder if she will really sue. I would avoid her for now. Maybe she will calm down. I wonder if you did have to go to court, if you would have to pay more. I mean you kept your part of the agreement to pay half, right? That was the original agreement that you pay only half? If not then pay all but if it was just for half, you should be fine.
2007-08-31 08:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! You are NOT responsible for the other girl's dress. Tell Bridezilla to take you to court but to be prepared for a counter suit. She doesn't get to keep the dress AND have you pay for it, too. Tell her she gets either or, not both. If it were me, I would give her the money she put out for the dress, so she wouldn't be out anything, but then the dress would be mine. That's just me and my moral code. Legally, you really owe her nothing. You're being more than fair by giving her the money. Let's face it, these are chances we take when having a wedding. S**T happens. Good luck! Kudos to you for removing yourself from that fiasco!
2007-08-31 08:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a sad commentary on this bride to be.
You paid for half the dress. If you pay for the remainder of it, it is legally yours. She cannot keep it. If she wants to keep the dress, then she needs to pay you the $200 to reimburse you for the amount you have paid.
I'm not 100% sure, but I believe you can make a counterclaim on her at the same court date. I'd ask for the $200, give her the dress, and see if you can get something for infliction of emotional distress. Good luck.
2007-08-31 09:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why hasn't Modern Bride Magazine come up with a "Bridesmaid Contract" and put an end to all this fighting!
It seems like every tenth question deals with a mismatch of expectations between brides and bridesmaids. Bridesmaids already nervous about the bills piling up are told to chip in $100 each for shower supplies. Brides left to address invitations, assemble centerpieces, make phone calls run a thousand errands while bridesmaids "are booked solid" and can't help. Will someone step up and end this madness?
2007-08-31 09:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she files a claim in conciliation court, you will be hearing from Judge Judy and several of those other TV judge programs. They have people visiting courthouses to read the filings which are a matter of public record, or maybe they now have someone acessing cases filed online. They are looking for sensational cases like this. Of course, both the plaintiff and the defendant have to agree to go on the program.
I know someone who did the Judge Judy program. They pay for you and your witness to fly to California. They put you up in a hotel, for I think, just one night. They give you a tiny amount of money for food. Then, no matter who wins, the plaintiff receives whatever money he or she is asking for, and the defendant doesn't have to pay.
Then, when it comes on the air, you can have a Judge Judy party, and have all of your friends over to see the program.
Good luck.
2007-08-31 09:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋