Her friend died recently and I cant seem to really cheer her up. Its like ive tried everything but it just seems Im running into a break wall. Isnt there anything I can do for my gf, or am I out of luck?
2007-08-31 07:39:52 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to giver her time, dont push it. She will start feeling better overtime but dont expect it to happen immediately, just respect her feeling and listen to what she says and be supportive.
2007-08-31 07:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many cycles of grief, and unfortunately you will probably have to stand by and watch as your girlfriend goes through all or most of them.
There is nothing you personally can "do", and that can be hard to accept. Just be there for her if she needs support or love. She may lash out at you once she gets to the anger stage, so just be ready, and don't take it personally.
There is also no set time on how long someone will grieve. It could be a month, heck, it could be a year.
One thing that could be helpful is to get her a book on loss, or a religious book that provides insight or inspiration on dealing with grief or loss. There are also grief support groups out there, if it gets really bad. Or she can talk to a counselor.
But really she just needs you to be there. Sometimes the best thing someone can do is say nothing at all, and just offer a shoulder to cry on.
2007-08-31 07:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything you can do unless you can bring her friend back for her. Which you can't!! Your going to have to let her get through this on her own time!
Just be supportive and understanding.
You already sound like a great boyfriend since you are wanting to cheer her up when she is so sad!!
good luck
2007-08-31 07:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by jbahhh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her cheer up on her own time. If your friend died you'd probably be the same way, right? Just try to help her by doing little things like taking her out to dinners, or buy her something pretty. You won't be able to get her not to mourn a loss like a friend, but you can atleast make her healing process less depressing. If she starts to worry you, tell her mother that your worried and maybe she needs to talk to a school cousiler, or professional cousiler to help cope with her feelings.
2007-08-31 07:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by browneyesoxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately people mourn their losses differently and some just take more time for healing. You can shoot out all those cliche says like "they are in a better place" etc...but sometimes that just makes them feel worse. The best thing you can do is just hug her, give her a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen to her and just let her know you care and are always there for her and love her. She will come around on her own terms, don't try and push her.
2007-08-31 07:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by Dragonette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how your girlfriend is, but when I am going through something, I just want someone to be there. If trying to cheer her up isn't working just be there for her. Let her know that if she needs anything you are there. When she is ready to talk, if she wants to talk, let her know that you are willing to listen. Sometimes that is all we need, just some to listen and be there. Good luck.
2007-08-31 07:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by NeLLie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way to make her happy at the moment. Dealing with the death of a loved one is the hardest thing to do. What you can do is just stay by her side and be with her always. Let her talk it out and comfort her.
2007-08-31 07:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to cheer her up. She needs to grieve and work though the loss and the emotions. Just be there for her. Go out to eat, to a movie, whatever, to keep her alittle busy. This will pass with time, so don't feel slighted. She has just had a huge loss and needs alittle time to work through. Just be there for her and don't take it personal.
2007-08-31 07:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by LAL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about ur gf loss but the only good thing that u can do is b there 4 her. Let her no dat u care about her n give her a good shoulder to try on!!
2007-08-31 07:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by smiles40305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do is just simply be with her and comfort her. That's what I did when my best guy friends dad died. His father was like my second father so i knew how he felt. There's really not much you can do besides just being there for her. Sorry bout the death:(
2007-08-31 07:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a grieving process, right now she's probably still mourning over the death. it takes time, dont try to be so pushy if she doesn't seem like she's in the mood. she will get over it eventually, but everybody takes their own time with their emotions. the best thing you can do is just be there for her, and let her talk and get everything thats causing her sadness out of her.
2007-08-31 07:46:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋