Found out two weeks ago my ex was seeing a girl since Feb. Him and I have been together for almost three years. Things haven't been great, I've broken up with him several times and we've gotten back together. When I found out about this I was devastated. The last few months were looking good, we were getting along better. Then he calls me up crying telling me about it. She says they had sex, he swears on his parents life they didn't. Who do I believe. Now I know I have issues and so does he. He is now saying that we need to work on these issues separately and that he still loves me and hopes we can get together in the future. He tells me this is the only way things would work. What does that mean? Is he lying? Why would he string me along?
2007-08-31 07:11:39 · 6 answers · asked by Nickle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on, you will never be able to trust him again, even if you want to. Why would the girl lie and say he slept with her??? Too much drama.
2007-08-31 07:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by blessed1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same EXACT situation two years ago when I first met my boyfriend. Except for the sex and issues part. We ended up together, he wanted to get rid of his ex b/c apparently she's a total flirt and cheated, etc. Long story.... but I talked to his ex and we sorta ganged up on him at first. In the end though, I trusted the guy. He seemed sincere at the time and I really liked him. So I gave him another chance. Now we've been together for almost two years.
Enough of my rambling though. In your situation, sadly, I think you and your guy are in the same position as my boyfriend and his ex. He may not know what he wants right now. If you really trust this guy (you HAVE been dating for 3 years), then you should go with his word and support him. But if you're skeptic and you think the other girl's words seem more legit, then you've gotta go with that. They could both be lying at some parts, and they could both be telling the truth in other parts. It depends on what you want and what you choose.
For the time being and until he gives you a straight answer and you guys actually spend time to talk about it, I would let him go. You shouldn't be dragged into this shady business. Besides, why would he suggest to solve the issues "separately"? That's not really a good sign. Best of luck.
2007-08-31 14:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can only guess that he is stringing you along so he can keep you on the side while he sees other girls. if you want to work things out i think you should take some time away from him and think about if he is truly the kind of guy you want to spend your time with. As far as who to believe i have no idea but does it matter if they had sex or not, apparently there was some attraction for he to be with this girl. if i were you i would dumb him and move on and find someone who respects and wants to be with you and only you, with no games.
2007-08-31 14:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could but it depends who you trust more and who tells the truth more so talk it through with the both of them like a court room sort of but keep it simple have the three of you in a room you ask and they answers and work out all the problems with the two storys
2007-08-31 14:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's pathetic! Yes, he's lying through his teeth! Make your exit now before he hurts you again. Remember, why he was your ex-boyfriend in the first place! Now, move forward, not backwards!
2007-08-31 14:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Pinyon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him. When in doubt go without. If you dont feel that you can trust him then you will always have issues. dont put either of you thru that.
2007-08-31 14:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by freed1one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋