I don't know what to do. I have multiple symptoms of anger that I feel I might need help in... When I'm alone I often think of hurtful things that my husband did to me and he said sorry for and I said I forgave him but I keep thinking about it and I get this intense rage inside and I feel I want to break his jaw. When we are sitting down talking sometimes he wont listen to what I just said and I don't get irritated I get explosive rage and scream at him and once I even hit him. Same thing happens when he is sarcastic to me I just try to leave but he comes after me and then I get even more angry and try to hit him. Is it normal for people to feel this anger over things in the past?? Or even the miniscule things like sarcasm or ignoring someone???
2007-08-31 06:43:54 · 8 answers · asked by help needed here 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
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2007-08-31 06:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by karma a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to either forgive him or work on solving issues. Forgiving doesnt mean "just for now". You may think of it and maybe never forget--but to truly forgive you must not bring it up again.
Physical violence is wrong, no matter your gender. If he "almost" hit you, there would be outrage that he could lack such control.
If you nag about past things or are tense around him all the time, he wont want to listen to anything you say.
Sounds like you dont need anger management but you really need help with impulse control and healing.
2007-08-31 13:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by blessednumber2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is one thing forgetting is another although it will stay in your mind put it away. Your hubby sounds like he's got some major issues by ignoring you etc. I think you both should get some counseling or you are going to have a more explosive marriage. It sounds like that's how he likes it to be. If he won't go to counseling go alone and learn to deal with the past and the present. Good Luck
2007-08-31 10:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are feeling that even tho your husband said he was sorry for what he did, you are not so sure he means it. If he keeps on hurting you and doing the same thing over and over, you are right, that he is not really sorry. The way we speak to each other tells us how we really feel. If your husband cares for you, why would he be sarcastic and why would he ignore you? When someone is sorry for bad behavior they don't repeat it. It sounds to me like he is the one who needs help. Hitting him won't get the message across to him. You are only sinking down to his level when you do that.
2007-08-31 07:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by misslilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are repressing a great deal of anger, and it has to come out one way or another. But you do need to learn to express your anger in a more constructive manner, screaming and hitting simply escalate anger, they do nothing to resolve it. Suggest that yes, some anger management therapy would probably do you a lot of good.
2007-08-31 07:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.You should calm yourself down first;
then take a deep breath,
and sleep for about 2 hours...
(my way_)
2. You should PRAY to God really loudly, by shouting
all of your problems, NOW THAT REALLY DOES A GOOD
HELP....
"Should to the Lord, all the earth Let us Sing~!!"
2007-08-31 06:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't necessarily need anger management - you may just be a bit of an angry person - and there's nothing wrong with that!
2007-08-31 06:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by Filmore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know does this piss you off...maybe you are just a bi tch?
2007-08-31 07:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋