I have decided, to experiment with my second child (19 months) and see if she will turn out more disciplined, "moral" and spiritual than my eldest child, now almost 7.
I spanked my eldest child on his diaper as a toddler for dangerous misdeeds, and he quickly learned right from wrong, and what could hurt him, and what he needed to come get mommy and daddy to help him with, or ask first. He is now an honest, capable, and intelligent young man who is very independent, but respects authority and knows when to ask for permission, and knows when to ask for help.
Well, with my baby girl, I am going to use "The Naughty Bean Bag" chair in the fun room as the punishment spot for misdeeds. So, if baby touches the stove, she won't get a swat, she will get ice cream and a trip to the naughty bean bag chair. No more raising my voice to get her attention. Now, I will just hug her after she attempts to touch the neighbor's sheep fence, and tell her how brave she is.
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2007-08-31 06:39:18 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Spare the rod, spoil the child.
2007-08-31 06:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Offenzalot 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
With all due respect, ice cream is not punishment. Neither is a bean bag chair in a fun room. Correction is essentially the deprivation of pleasure for misdeeds (whether you believe in swatting a child is your own business). This is not Sesame Street where learning is supposed to be fun, especially when it comes to a hand on a stove, not the alphabet.
If you add pleasurable elements in the correction process, she will not really see it as a deterent and may test the boundaries on every new situation, even ones that could put her in danger.
I would stay the course you did with your first child in terms of discipline. If you want to give her an ice cream after the punishment is over, then it's all good. There is a difference between being a stern parent with real boundaries, and a children's show host who has "the fun chair" for correction.
2007-08-31 06:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no need to spank a child to raise an obedient disciplined child. I dont really have too many qualms if a parent lightly swats a child on the butt or hand to get their attention, but time out really does work just as well. Noone is telling you to tell her everything she does makes her a wonderful person. The best way to discipline a child is to make sure that child knows you are the boss and that you are consistent. I laugh at parents that calmy and smiling say to a small child that wasnt a good choice, now lets make good choices. 2 year olds dont know what the heck you are talking about. When a child misbehaves, even at a very young age, you get down to their level, in a very firm voice tell them no, tell them why it was wrong, how it hurt someone and then follow up with either a time out or taking away a priviledge. This will work wonders if you stay consistent and stick with your punishments.
The naughty bean bag can be very very effective if you do it right. A child is much more aware of what they are losing if they are losing is time to play or toys or privileges they really want.
2007-08-31 06:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by cadisneygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I thought you were for real I would say to you...let me have her if you do not care that much for her... I will give the swats when needed... but I will also let her...as I did with my granddaughter(5) just last week... let her climb up on the fence and take a big sloppy kiss from a big friendly horse... now she knows what to watch out for. I have a great photo of the event that we can laugh about for a long time to come.
Keep swatting mom
2007-08-31 06:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God's way is the only way to raise a healthy, honest, mature, respectable self sufficient child who will then teach their children the same. Any other method will not work. God's knowledge of child care is much more advanced then any human ideas and theories. So don't even think about raising your other child any other way. Do you want to send one to heaven and the other to hell just to make a point? I hope not.
2007-08-31 06:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you giving her ice cream as a punishment? That doesn't make any sense.
And trying to make the "naughty corner" sound silly doesn't diminish the wrongness of striking your child.
2007-08-31 06:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by ZER0 C00L ••AM••VT•• 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think both you and your toddler would be better raised by your almost-7-year-old. Did your 'question' have any purpose to it, or are you just handing out free two-pointers today? Or are YOU the almost-7-year-old, playing on mommy's computer???
2007-08-31 07:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by kaz716 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're child will turn out as a brat. That's my opinion as a person with common sense, religion don't enter into it.
2007-08-31 06:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some of these well-meaning, "well-educated" folks ARE having a bit of trouble understanding the translation of YOUR "Nom de Plume"!!!
2007-08-31 06:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well although as a child i was spanked and it worked 4 my parents cuz i turned out 2 b orite...
I do not spank my kids...Repeatin myself again and again and yet again works for me,,and sometimes yellin too. i also try to reward good behaviour and praise alot.
2007-08-31 06:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by Islam4Life 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋